Hi guys,
A small question. I am 23 and I started dating a new guy and he is really sweet and nice and understanding . So far he seems like a good catch... but one problem!. he has a small pennis! Its not all that small but its really small compared to my ex boy friends and I feel bad because I don't want this to mess up our nice little relation ship we have going on . But man o man when we have sex its good but its not all that good.. . I can't just tell him hey how about you do something about your small pennis.. so how would I go about this ? Everything is great besides that one thing... help any one :)?. by the way he is 25 just in case any one was wondering

Unless you enjoy really deep penetration, then I would worry too much about this. In all honesty, the majority of your pleasure nerve endings are in the first inch or two of your vaginal canal, just as the same can be said about the head of his penis.

A bit of this might be a little psychological. It is almost a societal meme that a large penis is equal to a good time in bed, while a small penis isn't. For the most part it is a myth.

Maybe try out a cock ring. Maybe add a vibrator to the mix. Try out different sexual positions to capitalize on his assets. Doggie and reverse cowgirl are good ones.

If all else fails: Talk with him. Communicate. If you're driven, then you'll find a solution. It might involve a french tickler (Freedom Tickler?), but you'll find something.

(Aside: In the similar threads box on the right there are a whole bunch of threads related to Vista 32-bit/64-bit compatibility. Oh it is giving this programmer the giggles.)

Always,
Craven Morhead

You get to choose:

Do you keep this guy where he's nice and sweet and does everything ELSE right, and just accept that he's not hung like a horse, and make the best of it?

Or do you decide that a big penis is more important to you?

Frankly, part of the problem with having sex with someone you recently started dating is that you don't have the emotional connection to be able to communicate openly and honestly in bed without it screwing things up.

Bottom line is this: YOU have to decide if this is important to you. IF it is, then you have to talk to him about it, and look into options TOGETHER. But--if you can't talk to him about sex, then you shouldn't be having sex with him anyway.

It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion in the ocean.

A guy with a big penis is great... if he knows how to use it. A lot of well endowed guys think "Oh well, my penis is big, that will get her off, don't have to put in much effort"
Guys who are 'lacking' in the downstairs department often realise it and make up for it in other ways. (in my experience anyway)

Guys with 12" schlongs... don't make an effort... sort of like so many beauty queens do.

Like chasing after a trophy wife... are you after an object... or the total package. You can very, very rarely get both together.

And the average or below average guys learn to compensate by being better lovers...

There is a LOT more to making love than insert, withdraw... repeat.

So, how big was ex and how big is current?

Estimated inches?
Or was it girth?
What are we talking here? Standard grocery banana? :-)
Curious if it's worth adding a toy or it's psychological?

Well if you are a size queen, you will never be happy with the "sweet guy". I say, move on and keep looking for that "long dong". Sweet guy will be just fine and someone will be lucky to have him. There's a lot more to life than penis size.

OK he's sweet but if you need a big size he will never be good enough.Move on to the next one and this sweet guy will find someone who thinks he 's just as big as she needs.
Satisfying your needs is very important for the relationship to work!

Chase after "Mr. Holmes" and you lose any right to complain later when you mature enough emotionally to realise there is more to a relationship than sex.

Its no different than a guy that chases after the beauty queen... ingoring the mindset that goes with it. Which anytime you chase after an object... be it boobs... sausage... etc... you aren't going to get the rest of the package you want. And you have to take what's in the showroom. There are no special orders.

Or lets say... Meet Mr. ED... and he walks out the door when your boobs start to sag... or your butt... because he only wants... (fill in the blank)?


"You wanted it, you got it....now stop yer whining." Ever get that from your parents as a kid when you drove them nuts begging for something that wasn't at all what you expected it to be?

Hello N,

My attitude is, if he's "sweet, nice, understanding, and a good catch" and also the sex is good, then who cares what the size of his penis is! However, you need to be happy.

Let me ask you, do you orgasm during intercourse?

I still am not sure if there is an issue here.
The poster may NOT be a size queen or a long dong chaser... OR she may be learning a life lesson about intimacy.

Still waiting for answers on what is so different.

There is no "one size fits all" answer. ;)

Have a friend who laments missing her ex bf's large member... this was from years ago. Now... her sex life isn't bad... but it apparently was better with him.

It could be that she mentally is more aroused by the bigger guy... and the brain is the most important errogenous zone... so, at least a part of her perception... whether its flawed or real... was he was more "virile"...

Likewise, some women hate the pain experiences with a bigger male, especially with cervix contant, but some can interpret that sensation as pleasure. I know of another AMHD member who loves bigger men because of that sensation, while another AMHD member hates it.

I'm not going to choose for you what is "better"... good enough sex with a great guy versus great sex with someone else... not all relationships are about a mate for life. Not all sex is about wearing a ring. I don't fault someone who desires an incredible sex life... she just might need to compromise in other areas... such as giving up the stability of a "known" for what might be out there... or not.

You JUST started dating this guy. Right now your not about the "love making" its sort of early in your new relationship so it seems that because your feelings for him aren't as strong as they would be with a longer relationship sex is sex and its not as great as it would be vs being so into that person that size wouldn't even cross your mind...

I say this because I had an ex who was a good size and went to a smaller size the first time we were intimate I was sooo bothered and not satisfied with our sex but the longer we stayed together the more I felt so in love with him and I could careless about the size. When you really love and care about the person emotion plays a HUGE part when sex is involved..

Now that I think back in the beginning of our relationship, it makes sense that I would care so much about this size when I was use to being with someone else... emotion wasn't really important then when I blamed the size I guess..