Me and my family travel all over the world. I am fourteen years old, and much more mature than I probably should be. My mom and dad always seemed so, happy. My dad really isn't an affectionate person, But I KNOW he loves my mom. My mom recently lost 14 pounds and started to really start liking the way she looked. Me and my mom are in Thailand. A few days ago we went to Puhket, Thailand and went on this boat tour. On the boat apparently my mom met three Turkish guys. She said they were very nice. After that I found her on the internet all the time. Skype, mostly. I didn't know what to think of it because she is usually NEVER on Skype. She would lock herself in the bathroom, for... HOURS at a time, bringing her mac laptop with her. I didn't know what to think of it. A few nights later she told me she was going out to dinner with the three Turkish guys she met on the boat. Didn't even both to ask me to come... She told me she would be back soon and that she would have her phone with her. I went to sleep at around one o'clock, her still not being back. I woke up at FOUR A.M and she STILL wasn't back. I called her at least 12 times, no answer. Then a lousy effing TEXT message "At a really loud party, be home soon" I got so pissed off at her. Who the hell does she think she is! She came back, Finallllly. She KNEW I was really disappointed in her. She came and lay down beside me... her breathe smelling like alcohol and man saliva... -.- (SHE IS A STRONG CHRISTIAN, DOES NOT DRINK, EVER) and friggen' apologizes to me for being out so long. I just acted all fine... The next day, we left to come back To Bangkok thailand. Im sitting here in the hotel room, my mom left her Skype on.. so... DUH I look through it. Only to find one of the Turkish guys, and her messages on it. They were having online sex. Webcam and all.. with the conversation. She was also doing webcam while in the bathtub... she apparently got fully naked over webcam for this Turkish guy... I read a lot.. I wish I had not read. But Im glad I did. She was out till' four AM! How the hell am I supposed to know what happened? Did she actually have sex with this guy? If not, STILL. She had online sex with him! It's tearing me apart. I don't know what to do, and I can't even look at her the same way anymore... I'm DISGUSTED!

It's not your job to tell your parents how to behave and I very much doubt they will thank you for trying to.

It is obviously upsetting you and it's not fair that you are having to witness this. You could try saying something like, "Mum I'm feeling scared because I'm worrying you might be doing things that will make dad unhappy."

The fact that she is leaving you alone until 4am in Turkey worries me. Is there an adult relative you could have a quiet chat with on the internet or phone?

Where is your dad while all this is going on?

You have every right to speak frankly to your mother, and tell her what you know. While I don't agree it's right going into somebody elses' computer, the deed is done, and you cannot erase the information, you have to deal with it.

Your mother having online sex with men, and partying till the wee hours, drinking, is high risk behaviour. Particularly because she does not know these men, and being intoxicated, they could have taken her anywhere in a foreign country.

It isn't okay. You need to speak to your father about the fact that you are worried about her, which you are. While I think it is unfair that your mother should expect you to keep her 'dirty little secrets', for now I would remain silent and give her a chance to speak to the person she should be speaking to, and that is your dad.

She's put you in a terrible position. Knowing and being affected by what she has done, yet damned if you giving details to your father that could seriously affect their marriage. That is a big burden for anyone to carry, let alone at age 14.

QLP has said something that might help, and I agree that if there is a relative, perhaps her sister, or mother, that you could call and explain things to. That would open up the dialogue between all the adults concerned, and leave you out of the picture, which would be appropriate.

Whoever ends up talking to your mother, I hope they get through.

I'm going through pretty much the same thing except I live in america and don't travel or anything. My mom was acting weird and she started texting which she NEVER does. She says it takes too much time, but I thought it was her best friend. Turns out it was under the name friend which is weird and then I read a text and it was sexual and I didn't know what to do. I then read an e mail and they have been meeting up and he said he "missed her kiss" and I'm so stressed with school and band and everything and then this happens. She even left once on her birthday and I bet she was with him and now she's all secretive and my dad doesn't know and I don't know what to do... I mean since you have already been through this I was hoping for help. I mean I know exactly how it feels not to be able to say something but wanting to so bad.. I feel like I'm in the middle of a crowded room screaming at the top of my lungs and no one even looks up or flinches.

I'm going through pretty much the same thing except I live in america and don't travel or anything. My mom was acting weird and she started texting which she NEVER does. She says it takes too much time, but I thought it was her best friend. Turns out it was under the name friend which is weird and then I read a text and it was sexual and I didn't know what to do. I then read an e mail and they have been meeting up and he said he "missed her kiss" and I'm so stressed with school and band and everything and then this happens. She even left once on her birthday and I bet she was with him and now she's all secretive and my dad doesn't know and I don't know what to do... I mean since you have already been through this I was hoping for help. I mean I know exactly how it feels not to be able to say something but wanting to so bad.. I feel like I'm in the middle of a crowded room screaming at the top of my lungs and no one even looks up or flinches.

Well you should tell your dad but before you do you should talk to her face to face and say"mom I know your chaeting on my dad so do whatever you want.Enjoy your last day with your ex family

My mom has been texting all day all night she's cheating on my dad with his brother since I was 5 years old, and I've talked with her about it
And she sais "i wont do it ever agian i swear to god i wont".But she keeps doing it.Once I saw my mom leting my dads brother grab her but.I told her that I'm going to tell my dad but she would grab me and throw me and say"you wont say anything!"

For the past few days I've said to not visit my uncle and my mom would say no because she wants tonsee her "friend".

I hid under covers to see who my mom was texting with and guess what I saw her texting with my dads brother.The only thing could see and read was that tomorrow my mom will bring him some beers for no reeson.I don't nknow what my mom is planing to do but I will find out and talk to her argue with her and tell my dad what my mom is doing.I will tell every one of my moms friends so that when they see her they won't talk to her.My moms "buesnes" is over TODAY!!