Hi, I was just wondering if it's a bad thing to have no sex life. I am 20 years old and I go to college. I don't have a partner or a girlfriend or anything but I have urges. Its been so long since the last time I had sex I couldn't even count. If I would estimate it would probably be over a year to two years.

So I don't know where to go from here? What should I do? I mean I would like to have an active sex life but I don't. Any advice will do. :(

It's not at all bad.

Look at your past threads. People advised you well on how to make people know you're single and that being done, you only have to wait.

Continue with your studies, that is still your priority.

Monks and nuns generally live to a reasonable old age in good health so it won't do you any actual harm to go without sex.

No denying that sex is enjoyable mind. But so are lots of other things in life. Work hard, make friends, have fun, and when the opportunity for sex with someone you feel comfotable with comes along then that's a great bonus.

Frustration is natural, and the reason people 'take things into their own hands'. Desperation is not attractive though. So try to relax and make the most of everything else for the time being. A confident guy who is enjoying his life is a much better babe-magnet than someone who spends all his time wondering when he will next get laid.

Be a nun and get none we used to always say at my old school!
I do remember the nuns looking for for their age though - so perhaps not having sex has other benefits.

Seriously though, you're only 20 - it's only been 2 years max since you had sex. You can always hire an XXXX movie or create a rich fantasy life.

There is no magic wand that will 'poof!' give you an active sex life. You either go out and start meeting women at parties, gyms, clubs, classes or the mall and make a concerted effort to meet someone or lots of someone's or you accept that this is life at the moment.

Sometimes even people that have partners or GF's/BF's don't have 'active' sex lives. Just read a few of the posts on this Forum!

Nothing is more distracting to a young person than sex. Until you finish your studies... and get a career off the ground. NOT having that strong distraction, gives you a step up on everyone else your age.

And something most college grads learn shortly after entering the job market... the real education starts AFTER you graduate and land a job. You don't know everything or even everything you need to know just because you graduated.

Sometimes the difference between living in a trailer or a 9,000 square foot home is keeping the little head from calling all the shots when you are young.