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  • Jan 22, 2010, 07:58 PM
    IthnkImCrzy
    I definitely think I need some help ASAP or my life is going to stay in ruins
    I don't even know where to begin...
    I have issues. I'm single.. trying to date. But I'm stopping myself and I don't know how to fix it.
    First off let me mention that I have incredible anxiety problems. And its getting worse.
    I just kind of had an epiphany today that made me break down. As I'm writing this I am in tears because I want to change and fix my issues and don't even know how.
    I'm great at talking to people online. Perfectly OK with me... when it comes down to getting out and meeting people. I freak out, cancel, make up excuses on why I can't go. Anything and everything to get out of it.
    Its gotten to the point where all I do is sit at home and talk on the computer or text. Even if someone calls me, I won't answer it. I'm extremely shy when it comes to being face to face with someone, even if I have talked to them online or texting for months on end. Once a guy brings up meeting, that's it. I quit talking to him completely.
    I think I am insane and I need some advice help something, because I can't do it by myself
  • Jan 22, 2010, 08:21 PM
    cdad

    Have you tried larger socail networks like a church or charity or volunteer somewhere? The reason Im asking is because maybe it's the 1v1 that's freaking you out and you might feel more comfortable being in larger groups.
  • Jan 22, 2010, 08:33 PM
    IthnkImCrzy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    Have you tried larger socail networks like a church or charity or volunteer somewhere? The reason Im asking is because maybe its the 1v1 thats freaking you out and you might feel more comfortable being in larger groups.

    Its not just one on one.. I used to go out to the bar all the time.. and of course not alone, with another girlfriend, but still its like I couldn't be left alone, I get feeling weird, out of place, I get paranoid. Like everyone around me is judging me, laughing at me, making fun of me.
    Its getting worse now that I have moved and am in a totally new place. And its going to break me
  • Jan 22, 2010, 08:55 PM
    cdad

    Do you have friends in your new area you could visit with? Did you stop drinking?
  • Jan 22, 2010, 09:13 PM
    IthnkImCrzy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    Do you have friends in your new area you could visit with? Did you stop drinking?

    I don't know anybody here at all, and no, I still drink
  • Jan 22, 2010, 09:21 PM
    cdad

    Then you might try talking to your doctor about it. Get a check up and make sure everything is in order. Another thing you might try is volunteer for something that you like. That way your in a group and you can stay busy to keep your mind off things. You might find yourself in idle chit chat before long. Either way your making headway just by admiting it. And that's a big start.

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