How to write an apology letter to my wife who live in another country with my three kids for abandonment due to my deportation back to my own country?

It can't come from the heart if you ask someone to help you write it.

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Put your feelings in your own words. If you have to ask someone to write it, you aren't sorry

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Originally Posted by edwin okafor

how to write an apology letter to my wife who live in another country with my three kids for abandonment due to my deportation back to my own country?

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Tell her exactly what you're feeling and what you're specifically sorry for.

Just speak from your heart... why not just call her up?

Dear Edwin,
I read a book about this.

There are different kinds of apologies. If you know how your wife likes to hear apologies, you can pick some from this list. If it were me, I would use all of them to be sure that she feels apologized to. She must miss you very much.

1. You acknowledge how the other person has been hurt, so they know you understand how they have been damaged by what you did.
2. You say "I'm sorry" and express regret.
3. You acknowledge that you are responsible for what you did (and not blame others).
4. You find a way to make it up to them.
5. You make clear that you will change and never do anything like this again.
6. Request forgiveness. This must be done meekly and without any expectation that the other person has to forgive you. If they do, it is when they are ready, not when you want it go be over.

Here is a video about the book. I made 6 kinds instead of 5.
YouTube - The Five Languages of Apology

Good luck. I think that you care enough about doing this right that you ask for guidance is a wonderful thing.

No, there is a difference between conveying your regret and asking someone to write your apology for you. You don't have to agree, but my opinion has always been if you can't be apologetic on your own, then you aren't feeling that apologetic.

It seems he has more letters to write than just one to his wife (ex-wife?):

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/commun...on-428945.html

I think there is a lot background missing in this question.

1. Is this the same woman that he talks about having divorced in his other thread?

2. If this is the ex-wife who still lives in the United States with his daughter, she may not want to hear from him.

3. Is the 'apology' an attempt to get her to get his daughter to communicate with him again? Is he in effect wanting to 'use' the mother for his own purposes?