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  • Jan 22, 2010, 12:26 AM
    ntrs
    Am I over reacting?
    So I'm pretty jealous with my boyfriend.. more than a self confidence thing I think it's kind of selfish of me.. I don't think at all that he even thinks of cheating on me, but I feel insecure and it makes me angry when he innocently is too nice to other girls.

    He owns his own tanning salon.. which brings LOTS of pretty girls around him.

    He always, always, always keep telling me that he only has eyes for me and he doesn't even look twice to see if someone is pretty or hot. He tells me this without me freaking out or needing reassurance.. but I keep telling him its OK to look.. that I know its normal and he's got eyes but he insists he's telling the truth.

    I overlooked while he was chatting with his buddy (who I do not like.. he's married and always does inappropriate comments about girls) and my boyfriend was telling him how hot this girl that works for him is.. it made me feel really hurt and more than jelous, it made me angry because he was lying. I mentioned something about her that night and he laughed it off and said that his friend thought she was hot but that he only had eyes from me...

    I don't know what to do about it.. because I don't want him to think I always snoop on him.. but this is really bothering me, because he keeps saying it and now I know its not true
  • Jan 22, 2010, 01:39 AM
    mafiaangel180

    I'm thinking that you shouldn't keep bringing up this topic because of course men look. He was trying to be nice to you and let you know he wants you. And if you keep bringing up the topic, he will really think you are insecure. He chose you... not those fake bake hussies. ;)
  • Jan 22, 2010, 12:42 PM
    Devorameira
    I think it's perfectly normal to look, as long as there's nothing else going on.

    He's told you how much he cares for you and has tried to sound reassuring to you, but you seem to keep looking for a mountain to fall.
    Let it go!
  • Jan 22, 2010, 02:16 PM
    ntrs

    Thanks a lot!
    I definitely am more calm now and realize its not a big deal and in fact should let it go... so thanks for the advice :)

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