I have been talking with this guy and we really like each other. We've met once before and went on a date. He then walked me to my door that evening and kissed me on the cheek. We've been talking on the phone every day for a week now and will be seeing each other again in a few days. He thinks I'm beautiful and loves my personality so far...

The problem is that I am rather self conscious about my body. I am 5'9 and 164 lbs. I hide my weight pretty well, but under my clothes I am just larger in certain parts over others... especially in places that normal girls don't have a lot of fat. For the past 4 months I was unable to exercise and was limited to bed rest due to a terrible foot injury... I am slowly getting the weight off that I gained but I am afraid he will think that this is actually what I look like all the time. Especially if we start getting physical. He is a very attractive and fit person... I am just afraid he will be disappointed because I look great with clothes on.

I haven't had a connection like this with a guy in a long time and I am scared... I was in a similar situation as this with another guy... but after we had sex the first time he told me that I would be the total package if only I, "Had a rockin' body too." He said If it weren't for the weight I had gained he would want to date me. I totally let that guy under my skin and I don't want to let that happen again. :(

The other guy knocked your confidence,he was a jerk,I know words hurt and there hard to forget,but try and understand he was just not a nice guy.

The new guy likes you,he wants to see you again,you don't have to jump into bed with him,get to know him and enjoy the dating process.

You're a healthy vibrant women,with curves!

Love your body be confident and that will shine through.

Your weight sounds fine to me.