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  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:12 PM
    tuliya1
    Unprotected sex
    OK so I had sex while on my period without a condom... but the he did not inside of me but out... is there still a possibility of pregnancy?
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:17 PM
    Synnen

    If you had sex, then there's a possibility of pregnancy.

    How old are you?
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:17 PM
    ScottGem

    WHENEVER there is penile penetration there is ALWAYS a possibility of pregnancy.
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:18 PM
    tuliya1

    22... but he did not inside... but outside of me
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:20 PM
    Synnen

    So?

    Pre-ejaculate, which he can not feel, contains sperm.

    If you had sex, even WITH protection, there is a chance of pregnancy.

    Welcome to the waiting game, honey. You get to wait until NEXT month to see if you get your period or not.
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:20 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tuliya1 View Post
    22...but he did not inside...but outside of me

    You cannot be sure something didn't leak inside of you. Again, penile penetration means a possibility of pregnancy. At 22 you should be aware of this.
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:21 PM
    Catsmine
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tuliya1 View Post
    22...but he did not inside...but outside of me

    If he's hard enough to penetrate, there are sperm in the Bartholin's secretions that are lively enough to achieve impregnation.
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:43 PM
    CravenMorhead

    I don't disagree with anything that has been posted here. Having unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy.

    Our next lesson is on probability. Sex with a condom, 99%+ safe. So there is a 1% chance that something will happen. This could include the condom breaking, the condom sliding off, or even just having pre- on your hands as you're rolling down the condom. You can hedge your bets by using hormonal birth control as well, or use condoms in conjunction with other methods. It lessens your chances but not by a whole lot. Life finds a way.

    That being said, if you're menstruating then the chances are really low that pregnancy will occur. The facts, sperm can live for about 3 days in the female reproductive tract but can live longer. Your ovulation occurs about two weeks, given your average four week cycle, after your period starts. Given the time frames, chances are really low that this will result in pregnancy. The physics of motile sperm VS menus out flow won't be touched on either.

    I wouldn't be too concerned but I wouldn't make this a regular practise. If his penis is coming anywhere near your vagina, make sure there is some protection. Condoms are cheap, babies aren't.
  • Jan 19, 2010, 02:51 PM
    Synnen

    Craven--unless you are actively tracking your ovulation, there is NO WAY to know that you're not ovulating DURING your period.

    I know a couple of women that were having a hard time conceiving until they tracked their cycle and figured that out.

    Unless the OP is actively tracking her cycle (not likely, really), there's no way to know that she isn't one of those women who doesn't have a normal 4 week cycle.

    Yes, the odds are low--but low isn't NONE.
  • Jan 19, 2010, 04:59 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Agreed, it can happen during your period and there is plenty of sperm in the early fluids to do the job.

    Can I assume you are wanting a baby since you are having unprotected sex ?
  • Jan 19, 2010, 05:11 PM
    CravenMorhead

    Synnen,

    You are, of course, completely right in everything you say in your post. There is no way to know when she ovulates.

    That being said, the chances are that she has a NORMAL and AVERAGE cycle. Unnecessary capitalization added for emphasize. She hasn't said otherwise, and without her saying otherwise it is a folly to assume otherwise.

    In general I will assume that the person is a perfectly normal person and is average in every way. This is of course not the case for everyone, or anyone for that matter, but, unless the pertinent details are provided, we can't assume that they aren't normal and average. It is a safe and statistically sound assumption to make.

    Suggesting that she her cycle is different from the norm also suggest a series of possibly serious medical conditions. This is silly to suggest because all it will do is worry the person when there is nothing wrong.

    Also, low is a very objective term. Low can mean 40% or it could mean 0.01%. There is a vast difference between the numbers. Neither of those numbers is none, but one is not very close to none at all, but both are low.

    What I was trying to get across, and I believe I did so poorly, was that her chances of getting pregnant were minuscule. Given what she has told us, and Occam's Razor for the rest, the chances of her getting pregnant is slight, i.e. less then 1% 19 times out of 20. That was to answer her question.

    To cover my : I believe that this was a silly move on her part, and protection should have been used. There is no argument for that. I also wag my finger at her and say: "Naughty girl, you know better. This could get you pregnant. You should use protection next time even with no penetration."

    Cheers,
    Craven
  • Jan 19, 2010, 05:13 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by CravenMorhead View Post
    That being said, the chances are that she has a NORMAL and AVERAGE cycle. Unnecessary capitalization added for emphasize. She hasn't said otherwise, and without her saying otherwise it is a folly to assume otherwise.

    Actually it would be a "folly" to assume she does. The "NORMAL" and "AVERAGE" cycle is not as common as you think.

    Come visit me in the L&D department and you'll see where we are coming from.

    That said, no one is trying to use scare tactics, but rather the truth. Anytime there is penetration there is a risk for pregnancy. Remember, sperm can live in vaginal fluids for as long as 5 days. So, if the woman were to ovulate on the third day... voila pregnancy!
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:31 AM
    smoothy
    I agree... there are LOTS of women out there... mostly YOUNG women that assumed that the withdrawl method is birthcontrol. It isn't... and it only takes ONE sperm to get her pregnant. Its like handling a leaking garden hose and expecting to not get wet.

    Or having a debate about if its safer to play Russian Roulette with only one cartridge in the chamber rather than two or three.

    Many have unexpected and unwanted kids as a result.
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:40 AM
    abodh

    But, period time is also considered safe period. So chance to get pregnant is slim to non.
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:41 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by abodh View Post
    But, period time is also considered safe period. So chance to get pregnant is slim to non.

    Not with all women. I've delivered plenty of babies to women who either used the withdrawal method, or had sex on their period.
  • Jan 20, 2010, 06:44 AM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by abodh View Post
    But, period time is also considered safe period. So chance to get pregnant is slim to non.

    Depending on the woman... no its not. And sperm can survive and remain viable for several days inside her.

    Having kids should not be essentually like rolling dice to make your choice. They will be with you for essentually the rest of your natural life. (assuming nothing bad happens).
  • Jan 20, 2010, 08:09 AM
    CravenMorhead
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Actually it would be a "folly" to assume she does. The "NORMAL" and "AVERAGE" cycle is not as common as you think.

    You're right.

    I was wrong.

    Cheers,
    Craven
  • Jan 20, 2010, 08:43 AM
    Synnen

    Craven--awesome that you looked it up :)

    I only know what I know because we've been trying to conceive for 7 years now. Believe me--sitting in a support group of women tracking their menstrual cycles will open your eyes REALLY fast to how UNcommon the normal cycle is :)

    Again--cheers on the research.

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