I am 23 and have had 2 serious boyfriends. I don't know if I have had a real orgasm before. I read in another forum about someone feeling as though they pee when they have one, and I feel the same way. I am always embarrassed about it because what if I really do pee and not ? I am seeing someone now that I really like and he treats me well and he is determined to make me have one, but I am really self conscious about it. I think that's affecting me as well. I do own a vibrator and have used it with the same results. Is it normal to have like a wet orgasm? My last boyfriend refereed to me as a "squirt-er". Help!

Wet orgasm or not? Well, to my experience, it depends on individual as long as you are satisfied with the quality of sex you get from your male partner. Personally to me, my ex-wife was happy with the quality of job we both do but I never felt wet nor she discharged any vaginal fluids after orgasm. But she did confirmed she was done and full of satisfaction with the quality of sex I performed on her. Now, I am divorced with her and my current wife's orgasm is different than previous ones. She discharges lots of vaginal fluids and I feel really wet. In the beginning I suspected if that was pee. So, I verified with the residue on my penis and pubic hair, it was lot of white stuffs so I am convinced with what my wife shared and she is one of the happy girl with our joint (she deserve credit being part of it) quality performance. By the way we both are in the mid 40s. Hope, it helps.

He can't "make you have one".

YOU have an orgasm or not, with or without his help. He doesn't GIVE you an orgasm--you HAVE one.

I really think this is mental. You need to relax and stop thinking about an orgasm being the outcome and just enjoy it.

Try masturbating in the bathtub and just letting go when you get to that "I have to pee" stage. If you pee, well, you'll know for next time. If you let go and just have an orgasm, well--you'll know that too.

PS--very very few women are "squirters". You may have copious amounts of vaginal discharge without necessarily "squirtin".