Me and my husband have been married for seven years and dating before we got married five years . He cheated on me several times and I forgave him. now he emailing and calling one of the women that he cheated on me with, in one of the emails he sent her he told her that she was still pretty and he loved her lips and that he could suck on them all day. But he tells me that, its not cheating. Is this cheating or not?

It's cheating.

Doesn't matter what he or you calls it, it's hurting you and he had no need to be doing it so why is he?

It is cheating,

If this was a "old" friend from before you meet and he is asking about their dog or how their kids are, that is one issue,

This is the person he had an affair with and most likely will again soon

Yup, it's cheating all right!

To help you better, I've added a poll to your question.

I vote yes, it's cheating.

Yup from me as well.

My husband would be dead meat if he told another woman he wanted to suck on her lips all day.

It may be time to stop being so forgiving.

I think a better question would be:

"How many more times are you going to forgive him for cheating?"

Haven't you had enough?

I think him telling her those things are a bit out of line. Why isn't he respecting his wife? Why isn't he talking to you like that? How many times has he cheated on you?

Get rid of the scum bag because he looks like he is on the cheating road again.

I agree with the others. Especially if he cheated before and is suggestively talking to a person he has already cheated with.

C h e a t I n g !

I'm sorry I am one of the people that voted no, but I want to revoke that. I hadn't read the details yet (stupid, I know.)

It is cheating, most definitely.

Moreover, with a situation like this, go with your instincts.

If you feel uncomfortable with it, then it is not constructive to your relationship and isn't good.

I also voted NO with the thinking it depended on what he emailed her. Then I read the post and guess in this case its not cheating but sure will be. Its written all over it.

It is emotional cheating considering what is in the emails.

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Originally Posted by dee1721

he told her that she was still pretty and he loved her lips and that he could suck on them all day.

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You actually voted NO after reading this? He could suck on her lips all day is not even emotional cheating?

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Originally Posted by neverme

It is emotional cheating considering what is in the emails.

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Oh I do agree with that. It was my bad not reading the original post first.

I voted yes.

This is someone he had an affair with, if he's really serious about being forgiven and moving past his cheating ways then he shouldn't be having any contact with his former mistress.

He's a cheater and sadly I don't think he'll ever be anything but.

Time to kick him to the curb. Email the bimbo and tell her to be standing at her door because she's going to have a guest. She wants him so bad, she can have him. You deserve better.

Usually, I give some leeway for misunderstandings and out of context statements. This one, however, I view as a continuation of the previous cheating instead of a separate case.

This isn't an old girlfriend (who pre-dates the current marriage) and catching up or laughing about old times. This is a person he should never have been involved with in the first place and, at best, flirting-at worst, playing cyber games.

Yea Cat that was they way that I was thinking that maybe there was some misunderstanding, but no. There is no misunderstanding... none at all!