Hi,

This guy and I have been best friends with each other for the past 4 years and we started dating in the 2nd yr of college.. when we were friends, we were totally fine.. but when we started going out.. it ended up being really complicated.. he did'nt want to commit fully.. yet we going out... he always wanted to marry a girl from his religion... he is very possessive and jealous as well.. hes a type of guy who would'nt meet or solve problems face to face.. he likes doing everything through e-mail or msn... I walked away from him 4 months back as I knew this was'nt going anywhere.. it was one of the toughest things to do as I loved him deeply.. (im still figuring out why?! ).. I know this might sound childish.. he blocked me on msn /facebook everything but now he's unblocked me everywhere.. and he also asks our mutual friends how I'm doing indirectly and things like that... its not like I want to go back to him.. I know I can never be friends with someone who I cared so deeply about... but I still miss him a lot.. I do think about him a lot.. I feel I've moved on in certain ways but sometimes I feel I havee'nt at all... im not sure what he wants... but any ideas would be helpful.. is it normal to miss someone even after a long time.. I don't want to be this way... but I can't stop thinking about him even though I know its not worth it.. any advice would be helpful.. thank you.

You said yourself that this relationship wasn't going anywhere. I don't think this will change for you. Also, the way he would deal with problems is troublesome, and I don't think that would have changed eather. I suggest you remain being in No Contact with him. Four months is not really long enough to have gotten over anything. Good luck to you.
Give thought to blocking him.

Give yourself the time it takes to get over him-it will get better-block him from all your possible contacts and ask your friends not to talk about him.
Stay busy doing things you enjoy and be around people that make you happy.
Take care.

This relationship would never work he obviously wants different things to you i.e a marriage from his religion and blocking you then unblocking you seems to me he thinks you would come running back at drop of a hat as for asking your friends how you are instead of contacting you directly tells me he does not care just wants you to go running back when he asks get on with your life and find someone who truly wants to be with you .