Recently my best friend and I entered into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. When we were friends he told me that we could not have sex because we were not in a relationship at that level... now that we are he will not have sex with me nor talk to me about why not. I really like him but I do not know if I can stay with a man that has no desire to please me sexually. He lets me preform oral sex onhim but I get nothing.

Advice Please

First of all, how old are you? Depending on your age you should not even be worrying about this right now. Advice, sex is not everything. If you really care about this person you will remain patient. There are some people in today's world before having any kind of sexual encounter each partner is tested for different diseases and illnesses. There are some people who wait until marriage before having sex. If you do not really care about this person and you think sex is more important than it will not work out anyway.

Joe

Well Joe I am 28 years old and neither myself or by boyfriend have saved ourselves until married. I do agree sex is not everything but it is natural and something I want. Thanks for the answer!

Okay thank you for answering back so quick. Well if you have both been active before, is it possible that he does have something? Why would he not want to talk to you about why he does not want to be with you sexually unless he could be having problems in that department and is embarrassed to talk about it. Communication is key, and if he can not communicate this with you then if you two do still want to be with each other counseling should be an option to be able to get things out in the open if this does not work then maybe you need to decide whether you can stay in this kind of relationship where you only satisfy him and not the other way around.

Joe

I have never had sex with sum 1 of my age .I am 24 but I always end up having sex with some 1 quite older than me . Now I prefer having sex with mature ladies of the age group of 30 to 40 am I abnormal

No

It seems like he is hiding something. He may think that sex will ruin everything. How long have you 2 been dating? Or maybe he is closet gay? I don't know.

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

Communication is key, and if he can not communicate this with you then if you two do still want to be with each other councelling should be an option to be able to get things out in the open if this does not work then maybe you need to decide whether you can stay in this kind of relationship where you only satisfy him and not the other way around.

Joe

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Exactly. Well said.

Thanks guys. We have talked about it and he is scared that he will not be able to look at me the same way if we have sex. We have been bf's for 1 year and in a relationship for 1 month.

I still wish that we could move to the next level but I know how it feels to be rushed and I do not want to rush anyone!

Has a fiancée who is six years older than me, I believe my sex drive is a little more
Than my girl is, but I still love her... sometimes I think about another girl like a fling,
But I can't do it...

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Originally Posted by sensuallyrichmix

Thanks guys. We have talked about it and he is scared that he will not be able to look at me the same way if we have sex. We have been bf's for 1 year and in a relationship for 1 month.

I still wish that we could move to the next level but I know how it feels to be rushed and I do not want to rush anyone!

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I think he is full of BS about him not being able to look at you the same way. You stated that you performed oral on him and he was OK with that, so how does he look at you for that?