Hi I was living with my boyfriend for three months when one day I had to work late and forgot to call him, he got upset and told me he wanted some time to work on himself,we I was calling him every day and we were just talking about other stuff that about us then I ask him when to talk about us,but he didn`t wanted to, he said he will make an appointment and let me know,it`s bee 3 weeks and I haven`t heard anything from him,once I ask him if it was over betwwen us he told me not to say such things and he also ask me if I trusted him,but I am still not getting any responds from him.
What must I do.

Sharon P.

It's been 3 weeks and he hasn't given you an answer yet? I would've already moved on. I don't know about other people but if I need to make a decision, it wouldn't take me 3 weeks.

Personally it sounds look he was looking for any reason to get out of the relationship. And this tiny little thing of you not calling cause you were working late was his out. I say move on the fact that he would make an appointment to talk to you is a bunch of BS.

Yep, I agree with the others. Sounds like he had one foot out the door and is now making an exit. The fact that he's staying in touch makes me think that he's keeping you in a back-up position.

Time to get out of this funk. Stop contacting him. I know... and yes it is hard. If/when he contacts you just tell him you figured it was over and your moving on/moved on. If he tells you he's made a mistake and wants you back... take it nice and slow until his actions prove his intentions. If he gives you more lip service about "needing time" well you have your answer... he's stringing you along. Either way your taking actions that take care of you.

Good luck.

I think it's time to accept that this is over and start moving on-don't hang around waiting for him to tell you what he's up to.
Take charge of your own life and work on healing from this.

You can't force him to come back. He has to do so willingly.

Actions speak louder than words. Regardless of how he said he needs time, 3 weeks is a long time to be apart without any updates from him. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't make you suffer for so long. Sounds more like he's slowly moving on with his life.

You shouldn't have to put your life on hold for someone. If he doesn't want to work out the issues "together", then he's not longer committed to the relationship and wants to go his separate way. So I suggest that you go your own way as well.

I haven`t done any of the wrong things like telling him I love you or he wouldn`t fine someone better than me I just wanted to know were I stand but he would not respond to anything that connects us,but whenever I call he would answer sometimes.Last year we were talking but this year we only spoke once he ask me very calm how I was doing and how I spend my old and new yearseve.Do you think he will call me because I have stop calling him.I really want him back

You need to accept that it's over-heartbreaking as that is. His actions speak a volume-dont waste time waiting for him to call.

Move on,get your life back on track.

Is the fact the he answer the phone when I call and just talk about work and how were doing,but nothing about us makes that he is still intressted?

Probably not-again-his actions speak for themselves,he't not discussing getting back together and you really,for your own sake, should start moving on.

How much longer do you want to put your life on hold?


Stop calling him and get your own life back on track.

Sit... Stay... Now roll over


How much longer are you going to let him keep you dangling on a hook before you realize.