I have a 16 month old little girl and every morrning we get up and eat breakfast then I get her ready to go to daycare.when I put her in her carseat she will scream and kick and throw anything that she can reach at me then we get there and I will get her out of the car and throw herself on the ground... what can I do I am going to go insane I am getting gray hair... now with my husband she won't do any of that just me... help me please:eek:

Mommies tend to be the softies, and daddies have a way to "tone" children. I'm a dad, and even though I don't yell, my 2 year old knows the difference in my tone. Trying saying very relaxed, and as deep as you can, tell her that her behavior is not appropriate and that her daddy would not like it. Patience,. terrible two's start early, and end late. I'm in what I like to think the end stages. Does daddy ever take her to daycare? Or is it just you? She may be upset with you because YOU are the one, in her mind, deserting her, in a place where maybe she's not getting along so well. Also trying to distract her with toys you can strp to her car seat. And when you get to the daycare, stay with her a few extra minutes to help get her adjusted. Maybe find a toy she likes and try to play with it with her. Toddlers are very posessive, so eventually she will want to take it over, and while she's occupied, slip away. Also, don't do the "Give mommy kiss bye-bye" routine. Toddlers don't comprehend temporary goodbye's. They just know what's here and now, and at this very moment you are leaving her alone with strangers.

For every action there is a reaction. If there's one thing kids are great is getting a reaction out of someone. I don't have kids, but I understand them because I think I still am one. If I could irritate someone just to get a rise out of them I would. If I didn't get them all riled up I wouldn't bother. I would ignore this, as its just an attempt to get your attention. Try rewarding the little one when she's good and giving the cold shoulder to bad behavior. I wish I could give you a 100% sure answer, but all I can offer is what I think. Good luck with the tantruming youngin!