I went on a date with a girl tonight and though I thought everything was going very well we didn't end up kissing @ the end of the night.

The whole time we were laughing and just being very close and just having a great time. We even set up another date when we left the restaurant and when I went in for the kiss, she gave me hug & let me kiss her on the cheek. Then when we said "bye" she smiled again @ me and said "bye" happily when I crossed the street. What does that mean?

Now I shouldn't be concerened because she told me to call her tomorrow but I know kissing on the first date is a good thing in my book, most girls (and some guys) wait for the 2nd date (I have before)... what do you think?

Discuss.

It means she's not that easy. It's better not to kiss on the first date. If you really like her, don't push it until she is ready. Who cares how long it takes her to kiss you if you aren't a couple. If she wants you to kiss her, she will let you kiss her. It doesn't mean anything more than she wants to see how things go. She doesn't seem to think kissing is necessary on the first date, and probably doesn't want to rush in to anything that could lead to something more physical sooner than she wants it to, if she wants it to.

Myself, I don't like it when guys try to kiss on a first date. It should come naturally when both are ready. What's the rush? There shouldn't be a timetable for affection.

I had a guy ambush me and kiss me unexpectedly. I just turned around from doing something and suddenly his lips were glued to mine. Later, he said, "Oh, I thought that was mutual." About as mutual as having my pocket picked. I probably would have been happy to kiss him at another time, but he didn't get any points for forcing the issue. He even said to me, "I just wanted to get the first kiss over with." Huh?

This is supposed to be mutual. You'll know when she's ready by the look in her eye.

It all depends on who you are, what you want, how comfortable you are with the person, your beliefs... long list.

She obviously doesn't feel comfortable swapping spit with someone she just met. It's your first date.

Also, it's a great test. Most guys expect to get to first base, second, third and home run very quickly. If they don't, they lose interest. At least when they're younger.

So, if you call her tomorrow even though she didn't kiss you tonight, it shows her that you're not only interested in one thing. It's a great way for her to figure out what you're looking for and what you expect.

That's my take on it anyway. :)

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Altenweg agrees: That guy would have gotten a knee in the groin and I would have said "what, that wasn't a mutal decision?" ;)

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HA! That made me crack up! Alty, your sense of humor is amazing.

I really am interested in her, and what she is all about. So I will wait.

Good decision-time will tell where this will go.

No need to rush a kiss. If she was interested, she would go on another date with you anyway.

Just keep having fun together and getting to know each other better. The physical stuff can come later.

Or, it could be that she already has the second date, so there was no need to give you a kiss.

Could be she wants you to think of her as a virtuous woman, and it's just plain not proper to kiss on the first date!

Maybe you had a nice piece of lettuce stuck to your front teeth, or maybe her dentures were loose.

Please post again after the second date.