Hey everyone I've been in a relationship with a girl for last 6 mnths
We were quite good going till she got a job and she says she very busy with it and never calls me or hardly text me.
Since last week she never picks up ma calls, and late night she text me "m sry i was busy n i luv u".So I askd her if she like sm1else she said no she loves me but need time.since then no text no calls.I really loved her and I still do.I don't remember nytime I made her cry or hurt her.
Now I don't know what to do suddenly what hapend to her she used to be so nice and sweet to me.
What do I do?in both cases if she have a problem how do I help her? n if she likes sm1 else or she is confused what do ido?
I DON'T WANT TO hurt her.
Help...

I think it's a case of her not wanting to really tell you face to face, or even in text, that she isn't interested any longer. Thinks she is letting you down easy, but apparently not. I would move on from this relationship.

Please tdo not text speak on this board, just type normally if you can possibly.

Tick

If you're worried, why don't you go and see her? At least if you talk to her face-to-face you'll get a sense of where it's all going.

Texts are just words and don't reveal the true situation. Talk to her in person!

How old are both of you and are both of you still in school? How long has she had the job and what are her hours like? How stressful is the job? Do you have a job?

You say that the relationship was going 'good' until she got the job. Does that mean that you were spending a lot of time together and texting/calling each other a lot? Since she got the job, have you been expecting the same level of contact and communication?

Talking to her face-to-face would be best for having a discussion with her about your concerns. Remember to listen to what she has to say as well as explaining how you feel.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Cat1864

How old are both of you and are both of you still in school? How long has she had the job and what are her hours like? How stressful is the job? Do you have a job?

You say that the relationship was going 'good' until she got the job. Does that mean that you were spending a lot of time together and texting/calling each other a lot? Since she got the job, have you been expecting the same level of contact and communication?

Talking to her face-to-face would be best for having a discussion with her about your concerns. Remember to listen to what she has to say as well as explaining how you feel.

---

I also thnk I should meet her but the same thing she's busy,I askd her she says no time and she is not getting ny off. So every time I don't want to say the same thing or she'll get pissed.We are just 19 n m studin.I don't mind a breakup but don't want to make a mistake with her as my past has taught i.e.. Me to be patient.So by any chance sm1 know wats on her Mind.And even if she want me nomore ny chance I can have her once more??

Nobody can know what's on her mind,but I think that if she cared about you and your relationship,she would find the time to see you.

Personally,I would consider breaking up if somebody were to treat me this way.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by swtbcha

I also thnk i should meet her but the same thing she's busy,i askd her she says no time n she is not getting ny off. so everytime i don't want to say the same thing or she'll get pissed.We are just 19 n m studin.I don't mind a breakup but don't want to make a mistake with her as my past has taught ie. me to be patient.So by any chance sm1 know wats on her Mind.And even if she want me nomore ny chance i can have her once more???????

---

First, please do not use text/chat speak. It is against site rules and can get your thread closed and/or your posts deleted. I don't want to give you wrong advice because I misunderstood what you were attempting to ask.

Second, we are not mind readers. You would have to ask her what she is thinking.

How long has she been working? How long has she been 'unavailable'? What are her working hours like?

If you take a step back and look at your relationship like an outsider would, does it appear that maybe you have been expecting her to keep up a level of communication that was set before she started working that became unrealistic afterward?

You might try giving her some time and space. Allow her to contact you when she has the ability to do so.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Cat1864

First, please do not use text/chat speak. It is against site rules and can get your thread closed and/or your posts deleted. I don't want to give you wrong advice because I misunderstood what you were attempting to ask.

Second, we are not mind readers. You would have to ask her what she is thinking.

How long has she been working? How long has she been 'unavailable'? What are her working hours like?

If you take a step back and look at your relationship like an outsider would, does it appear that maybe you have been expecting her to keep up a level of communication that was set before she started working that became unrealistic afterward?

You might try giving her some time and space. Allow her to contact you when she has the ability to do so.

---

First, please do not use text/chat speak. It is against site rules and can get your thread closed and/or your posts deleted. I didn't got this?

Chat speak/text talk are not allowed on this site-see sticky at the top of the relationship page. All posters should write in the best English they are capable of.
Ie someone,not some1-you not u etc.

Thank you all good people
I just broke up with her!!

Take care and all the best.