I just went to pick up my son from evening school skiing... I arranged for him to go see his father in Barrie we live in Ottawa... his father is the son the moon and every other plane to my son... I am the reality... I have rules , goals and expectations from my son but right now. This 13 year old is destrying me to the point that I do not want him to come home after his weekend visit... I hate myself for sayimg this but I can no longer deal with the turmoil that my son causes the second he comes into the home... it is not healthy for me nor my 11 year old daughter. Pleas help what do I do..

What type of problems, is there issues at dads causing this ?

Barrie to Ottawa is a long drive, especially in the Winter.

A little more information as Chuck said, would help in understanding just what the turmoil is in your home.

Well, give him the choice to go and live with his father.

Once he lives with him there will have to be rules and responsibilities at that end as well. The moon, sun and stars won't shine out of your ex's bottom then!

His father probably gives him everything he wants. Perhaps it's time for your son to have a reality check and experience living with his father and coming to see you at weekends.

Raised 4 children by myself..
Well... Just for a moment stop and think about this boy, and where he is at in his heart right now. He is 13 years old, and going through puberty. To him... his only role model is his Dad, and he probably feels "very divorced" from him right now. Not that he doesn't love you... but he is maybe a bit overwhelmed by 2 ladies always being on his case, and no male to turn to:} Trust me... just sit down for a moment and let this boy honestly tell you what he feels in his heart, and truly "listen" to him, Then take it from there, and see if something can be worked out with his Father... even if it is only for a season. Trust me... he will love you for it later. The main thing is to not get too excited:} Breath... I'll pray for you
Been there... done that