Okie Dokie! To start with, There is this guy that I like. He really likes me too!:D We were kind of talking for awhile last yr. But then I decided that I wanted to stay single instead of date him!:confused: honestly don't know why I didn't just go for it with him! We like each other so much! He is all I think about! Am I in love with this guy? Don't understand what is going on? Now he has a girlfriend. I isn't a homewrecker! I don't break people up. But we both still like each other! So what do I do? Should we wait and see if him & his current girlfriend work out? I mean I don't just go around breaking people up!:( :confused: :( :confused:

You need to find another object for your obsession. Even if you manage to refrain from getting in their stuff and possibly breaking them up, you'll be miserable. Just let it go and go on about your life. There are lots of near-misses in life. Some of them would have been disasters and some of them would have been delights, but you have no way of knowing which. If you like, you can comfort yourself by thinking it would probably have been a disaster. Better yet, turn your attention elsewhere and get on with it. I know it's easier said than done, but it's a really useful skill to have and you have been given this golden opportunity to develop it. You are SO lucky!

Good for you that you don't go around breaking anyone up! Watch, learn and grow but wait for no one, Cowgirl. It sounds like you aren't dating but signing up for a relationship from the gate - which means to me you aren't really ready just yet. ;)

Dating is keeping it light, non-committed, trying it out and letting each other get to know each other slooooooooooooooowly. It is not a commitment to try and make love happen and when you succeed you get the prize - a boyfriend. You are still single when dating.

On the way to EVENTUALLY forming a relationship: we date to get to know others, we date the others who seem more interesting, we date them more and tell our friends about them, we date them exclusively (this is where is begins to take shape as a relationship), we date them exculsively and take them home to meet the family... see now, sweetie?

No one should be expected to judge whether they want an exclusive relationship with someone they have yet to date and therefore don't know very well--its too big of a step.