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I'm 12, and well, I'm not sure about love but I matured at the age of 8. He's 19, and I know, it's not right for a 12 year old to date a 19 year old, and I know a family when the parents are 12 years apart... Their a happy family.. But there in there 30's now. *I don't listen to my parents, they don't make the right decisions, trust me* and I know I probably haven't learned what "love" is. What do I do?
You need to tell someone..
If you have sex with him its rape and he can go to prison.
Your 12,as mature as you think you are,you in a bad place right now and need adult help,if not your parents,how about a teacher or aunt?
If your parents decision is not to let you two date, then that is the RIGHT decision. What kind of sexual predator is this animal? I mean come on, he's 19! First off, what could you two possibly talk about! This is just disturbing.
The 19 year old that is interested in you is a pedophile. That's a fact.
He's an adult, you're a child. Dating you is illegal and downright creepy! What could you two possibly have in common?
If your parents are telling you this isn't okay, then I have to disagree with you. They are making the right decision for you.
When you're 20 then date a 27 year old, but at 12, a 7 year age difference is not okay.
If you don't see the value in your parents experiences and guidance, then you are not mature at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Little_Emo_Wolf
A 19 yr old has nothing in common with a 12 yr old. Adults who marry with a seven year age difference is acceptable because they are dating as adults and adults do have things in common.
In fact, I would venture to say that 12 yrs old, is not even old enough to date!
How did you mature? You just woke up on your way to grade 4 all mature.Quote:
Originally Posted by Little_Emo_Wolf
WHAT 19 year old will talk to a 12 year old? WHO is this person. You are in DANGER. This person is obviously SICK. You are 12 years old.Quote:
He's 19, and I know, it's not right for a 12 year old to date a 19 year old,
Yes it's not right. The end. No more.
If your 22 and you want to date a 30 something year old that is okay- why? Because they are ADULTS.Quote:
and I know a family when the parents are 12 years apart... Their a happy family.. But there in there 30's now.
Your maturity is showing.Quote:
*I don't listen to my parents, they don't make the right decisions, trust me*
How do your parents not make the right decisions for you? Do they abuse you? How do you know that these decisions aren't right for you? What are these decisions you are talking about?
Love is a learning process hell I'm in my early 20's and I still don't get it. At 12 it's all kisses and holding hands. Love is much more than that.Quote:
and I know I probably haven't learned what "love" is. What do I do?
Right now you need to love your friends, love your parents, love your family, love your pets and above all love yourself.
As for this 19 year old you NEED to tell him to leave you alone AND you need to tell an adult, a teacher, a cop, your parents, a relative, a neighbor--- this is WRONG.
I'm not sure I know what love is. What I do know is that a 19 year old who has anything in common with a 12 year old has serious emotional problems. Has anyone ever spent any time actually talking to a 12 year old?
So, yes, he's a pedophile with other problems.
**I should have mentioned this but he lives in London; No way we could meet until I'm 16 :/**
So what are you two doing together? Are you hooking up over the internet, via email, video chat. What?Quote:
Originally Posted by Little_Emo_Wolf
The fact is, you're 12, he's 19, he's a pedophile, you're a child. End of story.
It just makes him a British pedophile
I wonder does he realise your age?
Even still,have you ever heard of young girls getting pulled in over the internet by perverts?
It happens,everyday.
Stop making contact,tell someone.
Hang out with your friends,and don't get onto sites where you could be in danger... london or timbukto... this guy has no business befriending you.
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Originally Posted by Little_Emo_Wolf
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Originally Posted by Altenweg
Now that would be GROOMING and an EXTREMELY serious offense in ANY country!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
I do have to wonder if the OP has been honest about her age. So many people lie over the internet, it could be that this 19 year old thinks she's older then she really is. So maybe we should give him a little benefit of the doubt.
Doesn't change the fact that he'd still go to jail.
What the little 12 year old doesn't realize is that the FBI is really cracking down on things like this. Thankfully. The 19 year old may not be the only one to suffer consequences.
So, OP, if you really care about this guy, go to No Contact, start being 12, stop trying to do adult things until you're an adult. Trust me, you're not mature for your age, not at all. In fact, your actions truly show how very immature you are.
Why stop at 19, I'm sure there are more than a few 69 year old pedophiles as well that might be interested.
And I'm sorry to say that at 12 you have hardly matured in any way at all. Nor can you grasp the concepts at play here. ANY 19 year old that's interested in a 12 year old is a pedophile. Plain and simple. Any 12 year old that thinks they are in love with a 19 year old has very clearly been manipulated and groomed by that far more mature person. And yeah that works either way with either gender.
Something else you will learn in due time is a 12 year differnce at 40 is no different than a 1 and at most 2 year difference at your age. THere is a vast amount of difference between 18 and 21, much less 19 and pre-teen.
Odds are your parents really do make the right decisions and its you who don't see it as you lack the life experience to make such judgements. And NO at 12 that is impossible to be able to do. That's not a swipe, that's just reality. You don't suddenly wake up knowing everything, and you certainly don't learn all that by 12. Hell, some adults have a hard time doing that by 30.
And a final note... there is a HUGE difference between maturing and entering puberty. You may have entered puberty at 8 but you certainly haven't matured yet by any definition, physically, mentally or emotionally. You have far too many years to go before that happens.
Stop playing games on the internet.
Unless you met this guy in person, neither of you know each other's true age.
As far as I know, you could be a 38 year old man getting his kicks by pretending to be a 12 year old girl with a serious problem. It is amazing how many trolls (people trying to get other people upset) put phrases in their posts like 'my parents don't understand me', 'I am mature for my age', or 'I am sooooo confused' just to make their 'story' seem more credible. People who prey on others use those same tactics to reel in their 'prize'.
I am not saying that is what you are doing or questioning your age and motives. I want you to question his and to understand that over a long distance there is NO WAY you can be 100% certain that he is who he says he is. If you ask for 'proof', he can send you someone else's and you would never know until it was too late.
Stick to groups of friends your own age who you know personally. Allow yourself to mature gracefully and naturally. Enjoy the journey (even if it isn't always pleasant, there are times to treasure though it doesn't feel that way.)
Here's an interesting story for you...
A few years ago my partner cheated on me, now he didn't cheat in the physical sense, he was talking dirty to a girl over the internet.
The girl he was talking to was supposedly a 19 year old living in America (we live in Australia)
Turns out this girl was only 13 and lived in our state!
He immediately severed contact when he found out her age as he knew it was wrong
(yeah I know the cheating was wrong but even he could see a 13 year old was just creepy beyond reason)
I'm wondering which one of you is being honest... have you really told him you are only 12?
JUST PLAIN WRONG! 12 year olds should not be dating.
12 year olds Definitely should not be dating 19 year olds.
Either he has something wrong with his head, or he is just that perverted.
Don't talk to him.
Don't even consider talking to him.
Listen to your parents, and the others who have answered your questions before me- they have more wisdom than you.
Enough said.
Sorry if this sounds harsh. Now, excuse me while I go puke.
This is one thread where I actually hope the OP is a Troll.
If not then take the advice people have given you on here and prove how mature you really are.
Snifff... sniffffff...
Does that smell like troll to you?
Yeah, but I decided to hedge my bet on the terrible thought that it could be a serious post.Quote:
Originally Posted by J_9
I have seen some 11-12 year olds that could very easily get themselves in this situation. Most of them were being raised by single parents concerned more with their boy/girlfriend than their child, while the other parent was either not known or not involved at all.
It makes me love mine and those I can have some affect on even more.
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