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  • Jan 12, 2010, 01:47 AM
    abcd32
    Love with a married woman
    I am married since 12 years with 1 boy of 8 years, I am in love with married woman. She is married since 11 years with 1 boy. She is my old friend. My wife cheated me once she had sexual affair with 1 boy and I cought her. We are living togather now but I want to get married with my old friend and she too. We meet after 11 years but we love each other since 8 mounths. We don't have sexul relation. How get married with her ?
  • Jan 12, 2010, 02:01 AM
    RadioActive697

    I can't understand what you typed so how am I suppose to help you.
  • Jan 12, 2010, 02:11 AM
    artlady

    The only way to marry one woman is to divorce the other one.

    I would make certain this is true love before you throw your marriage away.

    Sometimes couples just go through lulls and the problems with the marriage can be fixed.

    Before the two of you break up two families make certain it is worth it.
  • Jan 12, 2010, 02:13 AM
    abcd32
    How I get married with her? How she leave her husband and how I leave my wife ?
  • Jan 12, 2010, 02:23 AM
    artlady

    You explain to your partners what is happening and you proceed from there.
    I am not sure I am understanding your question.
    Could you please elaborate on what it is exactly that you want to know?
  • Jan 12, 2010, 02:32 AM
    abcd32
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by artlady View Post
    You explain to your partners what is happening and you proceed from there.
    I am not sure I am understanding your question.
    Could you please elaborate on what it is exactly that you want to know?

    First of all thank u for yor answer. My wife cheated me before 1 year now she is not in any fault. How can I tell her and how she will tell her husband that she love me and her husband has not done any mistak or not in any fault.
  • Jan 12, 2010, 02:39 AM
    artlady
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by abcd32 View Post
    first of all thank u for yor answer. my wife cheated me before 1 year now she is not in any fault. how can i tell her and how she will tell her husband that she love me and her husband has not done any mistak or not in any fault.

    Sometimes people fall out of love and they fall in love with others.

    When you are laying this type of bombshell on someone,that you want a divorce,there is no easy way to do it.

    I am sure both people are going to be devastated and that is unavoidable.

    Be certain that you are both not feeling the pangs of desire and the high that one gets from a new relationship.

    There is no easy way to break up a family. The truth is the only way and in this case I believe the truth is going to hurt.
  • Jan 12, 2010, 07:48 AM
    Cat1864
    May I ask what country you live in?

    This sounds like both of you need to take a step back and examine your feelings. Some time away from each other may help determine whether it is 'love' or 'friendship' and if you are using each other as excuses to leave unhappy marriages.

    If you are going to leave your wife, don't use another woman as the reason. Leave because you don't want to work with your wife on the marriage anymore. There is always the chance that your 'friend' will change her mind and not want to leave her husband especially if he decides to fight for custody of their son or promises to 'change' to keep her. She may also weigh the consequences of being a divorced woman against the 'love' she has for you and decide that destroying her home and family are not worth it.

    Hopping from one relationship to another one puts a lot of strain on the new relationship. If you do leave, give yourself time to put your life in order (visitation, child support, new home, etc.) before getting fully involved in another relationship.

    Keep in mind that though you haven't crossed the physical line of cheating, emotionally you seem to be well past it and so is she.
  • Jan 12, 2010, 07:59 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by RadioActive697 View Post
    I can't understand what you typed so how am i suppose to help you.


    This person is 12 and has no business typing with attitude on an adult board.
  • Jan 12, 2010, 09:15 AM
    abcd32
    Thank u very very much, u have changed my view. Thanks a lot

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