OK here's my situation,my ex g/f of 4 years is now dating some one else.2009 was a rocky year for us I broke it off with her because I caught her sending out half naked photos via internet.
I love her with all my heart and really wanted things to work out but a month after we split she started dating this new guy and wow the look of shock on my face when I found out is undescribable.never in a million years would I have looked at this new guy and thought my ex would have any interest.he's not very good looking my ex even says this admittingly she flat out said that this is the ugliest guy iv'e ever dated.but he's sweet caring and affectionate where her exact words
Is she rebounding?or is this new guy the real deal?
She says she loves me but is no longer in love with me and that she wants to remain friends they've been dating 5 months and we still have sex on rare occasion
She also says that she's in love with him but I know I'm not the only guy on the sideline sort of speak!I'm not sure if she's confused as to what she wants she just recently turned 21.
I tried to salvage our relationship told her how I felt, did everything that I could do to let her know that I loved her more than anything.I admit I wasn't the greatest b/f in terms of being emotionally supportive of her career and overall goals in life.I never wanted to be around her friends I kept things very family oriented.she told me that she coudnt give me a 100% right now and nothing has changed.I notice that when her and the new guy get into arguments she usually comes running back to me 4 support and a shoulder to cry on sort of speak.its as if she only misses me when things with her and the new guy aren't going well.
I want her in my life but I don't know if I want her under these circumstances at times I feel a little used.she's very hot and cold now when it comes to her relationship with me.. things could be going great we could have the most awesome time together.and then the very next day she's cold and distant again.im a little confused by it all points of view are appreciated but I feel like I really need another woman's perspective here
Is she confused?is this new guy really that great?
I honestly feel like she went out and got a new guy with a lot of the qualities that I lacked at the time.he's about as different from me as it gets I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing
I want her back but I'm not sure of how to go about it iv'e done just about everything imaginable.. the calm approach, the desperate approach hell I even tried the approach and nothing I do seems to change anything!
She told me so many times before that I'm her 1st true love and that she never wanted to be with any one else what action should I take at this point is really my main question.when all else fails what else can you do?