Hey all,

I was just turned on to this site by googling the same question, and decided to join. Hopefully I can answer some questions for other members as well.

Okay my problem is one I have never faced before in any other relationship. I want sex more than my boyfriend. We have sex quite often actually, but I always initiate it, and he told me he naturally has a lower sex drive. He also said that he only had sex once a month or so with his ex gf's and that they never reached orgasm. Where as I have no trouble reaching orgasm, and usually have 3 or 4 by the time he finishes.

Well, He doesn't have any trouble getting it up, or having an orgasm every time we do it. I know he's only doing it as often as we do (once or twice a week) because he wants to please me and keep me satisfied, but I want him to enjoy pursuing me and wanting to have sex with me as much as I do him. He tells me he's very attracted to me, and that it has nothing to do with me, but I feel like it's my fault.

Any ideas or suggestions as to how I get help him want sex more would be much appreciated. I think it's because he has never really had a girlfriend that he's been able to satisfy until he met me, or maybe stress at work? I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy, and he recently told me the same, but I'm not sure if that's going to be possible unless my sexual appetite is full-filled.

I need help.

Oh I forgot to mention I am 22 and he is 21, and we are both very healthy.

Try and go a week without talking or having sex with him. He will think something is wrong and then he'll be on you like crazy

I have tried that before, and he doesn't seem to even notice that I'm not all over him when we are alone together.

So why are not asking how do I slow mine down to and speed his up some,?

This is in real life a dating issue, you two may just not be matched, he may be happy with once a week, you may be once a day.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

so why are not not asking how do I slow mine down to and speed his up some, ??

this is in real life a dating issue, you two may just not be matched, he may be happy with once a week, you may be once a day.

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You are very right. I just want to know if there is anything I could be doing wrong? Or maybe something I'm not doing that could help him along.

I know not all men are sex machines, and I'm fine with it being more spaced out, but personally, I enjoy it quite often.