This is to all the men out there. Ive never been very successful in the dating/relationship game. Im really kind and friendly, people always tell me that Im attractive and Im pretty thin. I think my biggest problem might be that Im shy/ reserved around people I don't know that well; especially when it comes to the guys I like/are attracted to. Do you have any helpful tips on how to finding the right guy for a long term relationship. Or just any helpful tips for someone who does not know that much about dating?

Just be yourself 100%. Stick to your morals.

Hi, carepediemgirl!

How much experience with dating have you had, please?

Thanks!

Just be yourself, if you try to be something you're not, everyone will see right through you

You're doing good, being reserved is your nature, don't feel bad at all.

I personally like shy girls who can explode with lots of fun when you get to know her well. How about trying to send some signals and make the move before you wonder why you don't get any attention.

Just wonder what's your age?

Be yourself... sounds easy,but if 'yourself' is shy and reserved it makes it a little harder to put yourself out there.

Smile... smile and say hello to people,don't hide behind your hair.

Make small talk,not so easy either if your not used to it,so get some practice in with your friends.

Ask your friends and family about your look.

Could it be updated?

Maybe a new hair style?

Again I agree with everyone about being yourself, so be you,just a little braver.

What I would like to see in a woman is a woman that is: confident, somewhat girly girl, long hair, knows how to style, just being herself, funny, knows how to have a good time, smiles a lot (not a creepy kind) and nice but not too nice, knows what she wants, etc

But yah I don't know if that applies to all guys but nevertheless the problem with being shy and reserved is that no one will have the opportunity to get to know you for who you are and opportunities will just fly by.

I used to be like that and sometimes I'm still am but sometimes you just got to open up to people.

Like they have said be yourself, but try to be a little more out going. I like an independent type, needy is not a good thing. A job is a turn on for me. Good luck. Love will come .

Well I always thought rich and a bass boat were great things for a women.

But seriously, does everyone like roast beef best, no of course not, and not all men like the same things in ladies.

You can only do one thing right, and that is be yourself, and date enough to find someone that likes that about you.

Thanks everyone for the tips and advice! Really helpful and Im glad to hear some different opinions. And for those who asked my age, I'm 19.

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Originally Posted by valkman98

Like they have said be yourself, but try to be a little more out going. I like an independent type, needy is not a good thing. A job is a turn on for me. Good luck. Love will come .

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I agree about the job thing. Showing a man you are responsible is a big turn on. Also knowing what you want in life. I don't want to have to spend all my time wondering exactly what a woman wants in life. If they know what they want or at least have an idea, I can help them achieve their goals, rather than make them for her.

I personally am attracted to the shy, quiet type because it can be mysterious. Just don't be too shy and shut out. Smile often and men will come, I promise