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  • Jan 8, 2010, 05:59 AM
    Metalhead11592
    Horrible fight
    My father and I had a horrible fight this morning and now I'm at school and I'm so mad I'm still literally shaking from how pissed off I am at him. I feel like the next person who gives me a hard time I'm going to go off at them and I really don't want to do it. I never really had anger problems but when my dad took my car away from me for no reason this morning I almost lost it, I kicked the side of MY CAR and he said I can't have it for the entire weekend. I think it's the bigest load of bull I've had to deal with. Is there anyway you think I could get my car back for this weekend? I need a lot of input guys please help me!
  • Jan 8, 2010, 07:24 AM
    J_9
    Dude, what started this fight? I mean he didn't just walk up to you and say you can't have your car. There has to be more to this story.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 07:34 AM
    Metalhead11592

    He told me I had to wash the floors at the house before school and it was already 7:15 and school starts in 30 minutes and I couldn't do it in time. Then my dad took the keys for today and then I kicked my car and he said I can't have them for the weekend. So now I have to walk 3 miles to work later in the freezing snow.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 07:40 AM
    J_9
    Well, kicking the car wasn't a good idea was it?

    He was being a little irrational asking you to do the floors before school though. Was this something you knew you were going to have to do? Were you supposed to do this yesterday but didn't?
  • Jan 8, 2010, 07:45 AM
    Metalhead11592

    This was something he told me to do literally as I was walking out the door for school. I nearly busted out laughing when he said it. But ends up he wasen't joking around.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 07:51 AM
    Bentzle

    Metalhead,
    Seems to me that you just are interested in getting your car back. You don't want to elaborate on what YOU have done to make your dad take your keys from you. Maybe your dad loves you enough to stand up to you to protect you from yourself. I am so happy now that I am older that my dad had the intestinal fortitude to keep me on the right path when I was young. Try to look at the argument from his perspective. When you snap out and kick in the side of the car, it shows by your actions that you are not putting your mind in gear before putting your mouth in motion. I know you are frustrated now, but time heals many wounds. I find the answers to all my problems by saying a short prayer to God to give me the patience and wisdom to see the broader picture. A little quiet time in reflection is better and more productive than acting out your frustration in anger. Good luck! (When you take G.O.D. out of GO0D, you are left with nothing)
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:02 AM
    JudyKayTee

    You have posted that you turn your anger toward yourself, self mutilate. Are you on your medication? Is that contributing to your current problem?

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental...on-407750.html
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:05 AM
    Bentzle
    Metalhead,
    Maybe your dad is having problems and in a sense he is taking his frustrations out on you. Time heals many wounds. Give him a little time to cool down and it doesn't hurt to apologize for your reaction to his request. Maybe he was wrong. Maybe he was right. Maybe he will see things clearer from your perspective and apologize to you. However, If you were told to do something earlier and brushed it off, then you will never have enough time to get things accomplished
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:09 AM
    Metalhead11592

    I'm on anti-depressants and ADHD medication but that doesn't contribute to my anger, I don't think I'm more angry than most any other teenager would be and I'm not looking for sympathy I'm looking for ways to get my dad to let me have my keys. Reason I disagreed before was because he said that I didn't want to elaborate on why I got the keys taken when in actuality I had answered that question, If someone posts something without reading the entire thread that's not my fault.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:10 AM
    artlady

    Before you go off on someone in school who is an innocent person,think before you act.Its just not worth it.

    When you get a chance,talk to your father and calmly explain your position and see what happens.

    I am a parent and I have been known to make harsh judgments that I have then relented on.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:11 AM
    NeedKarma
    Nm.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:13 AM
    Metalhead11592
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by artlady View Post
    Before you go off on someone in school who is an innocent person,think before you act.Its just not worth it.

    When you get a chance,talk to your father and calmly explain your position and see what happens.

    I am a parent and I have been known to make harsh judgments that I have then relented on.

    Dear Artlady,
    At my school there aren't too many innocent people. I go to catholic school and surprise surpize most people here are mean and cruel but so is almost every high school student body. Everyone here except the few people I'm friends with aren't mean. I talked to my one friend and she calmed me down a bit and I vented a bit now but I really don't understand why my father would have made such a bizard request at the last minute when he knew I would have been late for school?
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:14 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Metalhead11592 View Post
    i'm looking for ways to get my dad to let me have my keys.

    Oh, goodness... as a parent of a teen myself, this would make me more upset and hold on to the keys longer.

    You want the keys? Go home from school (why are you on the computer anyway, you should be listening and learning right now... another reason to keep the keys away longer), and do the floors, apologize to your father for over reacting. Not saying it will work, but it may help give you "brownie points."
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:15 AM
    J_9
    Aren't you supposed to be in class right now? Why are you online?
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:18 AM
    artlady
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Metalhead11592 View Post
    Dear Artlady,
    At my school there aren't too many innocent people. I go to catholic school and surprize surpize most people here are mean and cruel but so is almost every highschool student body. Everyone here except the few people i'm friends with aren't mean. I talked to my one friend and she calmed me down a bit and i vented a bit now but i really dont understand why my father would have made such a bizard request at the last minute when he knew i would have been late for school?

    Maybe he was teed off because the floor was dirty and he was having a bad day.

    Were you supposed to do this chore yesterday or something?

    We all get up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes,and you were there so he took it out on you.. No excuse, but see what happens when you get a chance to talk to him calmly and explain that you need the car for work.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:23 AM
    J_9
    I'm still wondering what you are doing online when you are supposed to be in class.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:29 AM
    Metalhead11592
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Aren't you supposed to be in class right now? Why are you online?

    Haha I go to Catholic school and I'm a senior I took all the classes I had to previously and now I have about 7 study halls a week with about 5 art classes and what-not put into my schuduel and I have a laptop with internet access in school =] so yes I'm getting my work done and then some. Since I did all my required classes I also take a college math class and anatomy class as well as a criminal justice class I just tend to get the work done extremely quick so its no worries!
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:36 AM
    this8384

    I guess my question in all of this is: whose name is the car registered in? Who bought it and insures it?
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:39 AM
    J_9
    Haha... I went to Catholic school as well. I'm not stupid.

    Now, as a mother of a teen, I know you should not be online while in class, even study hall. If you are allowed online, it's not for a site like this.

    I don't mean to sound like your father, but if you want respect from him, you will respect the rules of the school as well.

    You really should get offline before you get into trouble at school. That would mean even worse punishment when you get home.

    Now, you can do this voluntarily, or, as a SuperModerator, I can help you.
  • Jan 8, 2010, 08:56 AM
    Metalhead11592
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by this8384 View Post
    I guess my question in all of this is: whose name is the car registered in? Who bought it and insures it?

    I bought the car myself and provide money for the insurance, and its in my moms name.

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