I am writing here so maybe someone can help me deal with my mum.
Brief history, mum and dad were married for 30 years. Happy marriage on the whole.
5 years ago dad died, and mum was on her own. For 1 whole year she was truly sad and depressed.
However 1 year after she met this guy!
Both me and my brother were not so happy but he started to make her smile so we accepted him.
Basically they had an good relationship for 1 – 1.5 yrs then she asked him to move in with her.
From then on things started going down hill, he was possessive, jealous, commentative and abit boring, - total opposite to my father.
But on his good days he made mum happyish!
However after so many years of this actually 4 years mum finally asked him to leave.
He left, and now mum fell in a depression.
She told me she made an mistake asking him to leave but before she did this all she was telling me for 2 yrs straight was that he is making her feel claustrophobic and they don’t talk anymore an so on and so forth.
She says she misses him and feels lonely. She says its not nice not to have a man. My mum is 60. He was 15 yrs younger!
My brother and I get very annoyed when we hear speak like this of HIM….
We believe she is missing my father as 1 year is not enough to grieve your husband of 30 yrs whom you were really happy with.
But she is not seeing it this way, as she said – when they are alive there is hope.
HOPE FOR WHAT? She wasn’t happy with him.
Please help me as I'm starting to get annoyed about all this and so is my brother.
She is now on strong antidepressants