I have been in a relationship for over 18 months with a man who lives next door to my mom.He was a mutual friend of me and my sister and an ex husband of a former family friend.They were divorced ages before we got together.We were friends at first and I enjoyed his company after being alone for 8 years following a violent and abusive relationship with the father of my children. He was OK at first and we got on like a house on fire. However, his ex wife never seemed to let go and constantly rang txtd etc throughout the relationship telling him he shouldn't be with me etc etc. She finished the marriage as she turned into a lesbian so I couldn't understand her jealousy.He met her behind my back, lied about even going out with me. He came up to see me and was always about when I got paid, but I never saw him when he had his. Last christmas he came to dinner with his daughter and they didn't even bring a card, they brought a bottle of wine then took it back home with them, which I just put down as being a bit odd. He never wanted to go out or anything. A few times publicly he totally ignored me saying it was because I was with my neices and nephew and he didn't speak as he knew they did not like him.He went from not bothering at all during the day to being in my face 24 7 but expected to sit and eat at my house and not contribute anything.When ever I asked him to help out with the shopping bill he said well he would start and go home for food and that he didn't think, but carried on asking to borrow all my things and not returning them, money, cds, food etc.After asking where the relationship was going he said, he loved me and wanted t b with me, and he would move in as soon as his daughter and her boyfriend and her baby got a home of their own.In the meantime he was still meeting his wife saying it was his daughter meeting her, he was meeting his daughter.But if they're all together they are all meeting I said.I just wanted to know what was going on. I went out once to a family do of his, his relatives made it clear that they wernt too keen on her.Which I didn't get into a slagging match because I do not do slagging off, and made it clear to them I was not into ing.My mother did not approve of the relationship as she said he was just a leach and a bad influence on my children as he was lazy. My sister was shocked about how he treated me and refused to speak to him after he ignored me once.I had stupidly got involved with him so carried on with the relationship. However, latest is, his daughter got a house and he had arranged to wind his house up and move in with me.Then his wife was on at him wanting to move back in to his house.I asked him in what way and he said he didn't know and that there was no way she was moving in and even asked me if my daughter would double up with his (not very well behaved) younger daughter.I said to him that when he had said he would move in with me it was like a passing comment and I thought it was just pillow talk and hed said it 6 months before and I had not even got my head round it.He then sulked for about a week until I lost my cool and had to go into a different room as my son was there and I did not want to have a scene in front of him.The boyfriend however, flipped and said Im out of here and grabbed his xbox which hed brought up to play with my son on and banged about.He then stood at the door and said do you want me to go. I just said well your ready go home, Im not having you kicking off like that in front of my kids you scared my son. Since then he's rang twice the nx two days like everything was normal.The third not at all till I asked him what was what, and it would be better if he was coming up to visit to not come when my children were about. I said it was finished but he kept saying it wasn't.I am dreading him coming round.Anybody been in this situation? How am I going to get it into his head that enough is enough?:mad: :mad: :( :eek: Yes I do still care about him but I am sick of the hassle with his ex wife. I don't need it.Sorry about the long boring story.
