Is it ultra-tacky to send out "save the dates" before we're even engaged?

Yeah, get engaged then set the date before you send these out.

Not only is it 'tacky,' it will just confuse people.

Imagine getting this in the mail, "Please keep the afternoon of (random date), open. If/when he proposes to me, I want to have our wedding on this day."

Don't forget to send one of these "save the date" cards to the future groom! I'm sure he'd like to know...

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Originally Posted by leannemmartin

Is it ultra-tacky to send out "save the dates" before we're even engaged??

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Beyond ultra, it's Uber-tacky.

Are you registered at Macy's already, too? BassMaster's?

Yeah... Uber tacky. What are they saving the date for if there's no plan to marry? Engaged means you intend to get married. If you have set a date for the wedding, it would appear you are engaged. This is weird.

Why would you send out announcements, invitations, or save-the-dates for a wedding in which the man hasn't even proposed?

Tacky. Yes.

It's not tacky... it's utter nonsense if you ask me. Is this to goad him into asking you or what? Makes no sense whatsoever to put the cart before the horse.

How about a pre-baby shower? How about pre-graduation gifts for that child?

How foolish will you feel if he's not ready, or even planning on staying a bachelor?

Just keep your hope chest dusted off, but don't assume anything.

You can't have a date set unless you are enganged, once you pick a date you basically are

Is the groom even chosen yet? Is it for a blind date wedding?

I thought there couldn't be anything tackier than putting registration information and requests for cash into a wedding invitation.

Apparently, I was wrong.

I went to a bridal shower and there were computer generator, generic thank you notes on each plate.

This MIGHT be tackier than that.

A while ago my Step daughter called to let us know that she was going to be getting engaged in a couple weeks:confused: I didn't get it, her Dad did, I think they are all weird:rolleyes: