My boyfriend and I dated for 5 months and then went on a break for 2 weeks then finally broke up. We were broken up for a year. And we have been back together for 7 months. Night before last he told me he cheated on me during our "break" before we broke up the first time. Then he said he doesn't think he can still be with me because of the guilt, and that he thinks he's ruining my life and that I can do better. I talked to him in person yesterday, and he kept trying to persuade me that I don't need him. He says he still loves me, I still love him. I am 18, he's 19. We are supposed to get married within the next 3 yrs.. he said that 3 days ago. He still says he doesn't know what he wants to do. He said he needs to feel things out to know if he still wants me. What do I do? Should I keep contacting him, begging him to stay? Or should I have no contact with him until he contacts me?

Hun he doesn't know if he wants you after 7 months?
He said he loves you yet he's trying to persuade you that you don't need him but he says your supposed to be getting married in the next 3 years.
If I REALLY loved someone id want them,I wouldn't be trying to persuade them they didn't want me.
Hun for your own sake start no contact he cheated on you,yeah you was on a brake but if he did it once he'll do it again

Thank you so so much for your advice. I truly appreciate it

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what do I do? Should I keep contacting him, begging him to stay? Or should I have no contact with him until he contacts me?

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I would hope you let him go because his words and actions match, he told you he loves you but is in no way ready to get married and change his cheating ways. I believe him, and so should you.

Find something else besides him, to make yourself happy.

He does not deserve you. Move on hun.

No contact and move forward by staying busy doing things that make you happy.
You deserve much better.

Hey I'm in the almost same situation as you are. I'm the guy and she's the girl but she was the cheater not me, I'm not going to be talking to her anymore because its an old habbit. Once a cheater always a cheater. Also if all of a sudden he thinks he's not good for you anymore I'm sorry to say hun that he probably recently cheated on you saying that is the most common phrase amongst us males. Another thing don't trust guys like that who have hurt you in the past don't let the past repeat itself you deserve better.

NO, don't beg. Give him space, let him think. I'm going through being with someone and we're on a break. I'm ignoring his calls, texts, and everything. Sunday, the day before our 10months and ValentinesDay (same day) we are going to dinner, and a movie. And that's when he will let me know if he wants to be with me or not. Begging, and constantly contacting him, will push him away further, and faster. Give it time, set up a date to hear his final decision. Goodluck to you hunny.

Check dates on posts, this is a year old. MMMkay?