My wife doesn't know what she wants out of our marriage, she seems depressed and is not overly interested in changing who she is. She also doesn't want to commit to fixing whatever is missing in our relationship. I am wondering what I should do and if there is anything I can do. Or do I wait it out and find out if I am going to be part of her life again..?

Suggest seeing a marriage counselor and if she won't go, go yourself. I advise this because I have done it myself and the scope of this site is fairly limited. If you go and she sees you changing or at least returning still in one piece, she may then change her mind and become willing to accompany you. It also turns out, if she isn't responsive and you decide to leave, handy to have a professional to talk to when faced with something as big as divorce. It is rated only second to death in its ablility to really sideswipe us so don't feel strange seeking help like that (and your future relationships will thank you LOL trust me!).

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Originally Posted by stratt1004

My wife doesn't know what she wants out of our marriage, she seems depressed and is not overly interested in changing who she is. She also doesn't want to commit to fixing whatever is missing in our relationship. I am wondering what I should do and if there is anything I can do. Or do I wait it out and find out if I am going to be part of her life again...???

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Seeing somebody will help... if she's willing. Otherwise, try a trial separation and really be separate. If she wants you in her life, that's when she'll decide. As guys, we have a tendency to be "clingy" when the woman is unsure or questioning. Rarely does that work. Mostly, we just end up pushing them further away. Be loving but we willing to give her what she wants. Sadly, the ball is pretty much in her court now.