I am just interested, I was married for 14 years and sex was never a problem everything else was... I am divorced for a pretty long time, I moved in w my boyfriend and the sex - affection stopped, maybe 2x a month he says he is tired or don t feel good, he still touches and hugs falling asleep wrap into each other and so but no sex.. when I was married I had sex all the time for 14 years no problems at all... we had problems w other things sex always worked... I have no real problems w my boyfriend besides the lack of sex and affection.. he is not cheating - I just not happy w that... any advice?
tried to talk but he says there is nothing wrong he doesn't t like the holidays long holiday...

So this guy is different than your husband, and after a year, you talk and make adjustments that work for you both. Also after a year your bound to find a lot of things that need adjustments. After a long marriage, did you think you were going to find the perfect guy?

Its not what you go through, its how you handle it that counts, and his short answer is hardly a conversation.

Life is short, so you better get past a “no real problems” relationship and try to find that “I’m so ridiculously happy' one before you wake up and you're old and in a depression. If it's a deal breaker for you then go find your happiness, especially if he is so unwilling to talk about it/work on it. You need to feel desired and sexually fulfilled, and if he isn't doing it and doesn't care about how strongly you feel, then you truly deserve someone that will make your fantasies come true.