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Hi, I been in a relationship for 12 years, recently my husband and I broke up which has been 2 year's already. I stop loving my husband for the past 5 years because he have been cheating and had kids out of wedlock. I have know a friend for three years which was supported to me and always there for me. We ended up seeing each other and been together for 1 year already, the sad part is he is married and has been married for 15 years. He says he loves me and wants to be with me and says in the run who knows what will happen. I broke up with him twice and I stopped seeing him, but he stills comes to me and tells me that he loves me and he can't let go, and I fall again in his trap. I want to break up this relationship with him because I don't want to hurt his wife and I've told him we have to end this now, because someone is going to get hurt what should I do or tell him? :confused:

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I stop loving my husband for the past 5 years because he have been cheating and had kids out of wedlock.

Good for you.

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I have know a friend for three years which was supported to me and always there for me. We ended up seeing each other and been together for 1 year already, the sad part is he is married and has been married for 15 years. He says he loves me and wants to be with me and says in the run who knows what will happen.

You got rid of one cheating dog for another cheating dog.

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I broke up with him twice and I stopped seeing him, but he stills comes to me and tells me that he loves me and he can't let go, and I fall again in his trap.

It took 5 years to get rid of one dog, and you still get a dog who won't leave. That's out and out sad.

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I want to break up this relationship with him because I don't want to hurt his wife and I've told him we have to end this now, because someone is going to get hurt what should I do or tell him?

If you depending on him to do the right thing, your crazy. It is up to you to do what's necessary to get his cheating behind out of your life.. also You should not be in a relationship period especially having known what its like to be cheated on, you cheated on your cheating husband, divorced him and took up with the cheater who cheated with you on your husband, and now you keep letting this cheater come back over and over again. Sell this story to the soap operas and use the proceeds for some serious counselling.

Sorry I forgot to tell you what you should do, LEAVE HIM ALONE and what you should tell him, IF YOU COME BACK I WILL CALL THE POLICE AND YOUR WIFE! That should about do it. Have a good life and get the help you truly need.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Good for you.

You got rid of one cheating dog for another cheating dog.

It took 5 years to get rid of one dog, and you still get a dog who won't leave. That's out and out sad.

If you depending on him to do the right thing, your crazy. It is up to you to do whats necessary to get his cheating behind out of your life..also You should not be in a relationship period especially having known what its like to be cheated on, you cheated on your cheating husband, divorced him and took up with the cheater who cheated with you on your husband, and now you keep letting this cheater come back over and over again. Sell this story to the soap operas and use the proceeds for some serious counselling.

First I didn't cheat, he cheated on me and we broke up (Talaniman)

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Originally Posted by Gee12

Hi, I been in a relationship for 12 years, recently my husband and i broke up which has been 2 year's already. I stop loving my husband for the past 5 years because he have been cheating and had kids out of wedlock. I have know a friend for three years which was supported to me and always there for me. we ended up seeing each other and been together for 1 year already, the sad part is he is married and has been married for 15 years. He says he loves me and wants to be with me and says in the run who knows what will happen. I broke up with him twice and i stopped seeing him, but he stills comes to me and tells me that he loves me and he can't let go, and i fall again in his trap. i want to break up this relationship with him because i dont want to hurt his wife and I've told him we have to end this now, because someone is going to get hurt what should i do or tell him? :confused:

Test him, give him an ultimatum ( I don't agree with ultimatum's but cheating husband's deserve it ).
Tell him straight forward - its your wife or me... That's when you will see how he truly loves you. OPEN your eyes, think of his poor wife... this is awful.
He has a cake and is eating it all...
He has his wife at home, cooking, cleaning and there for him when he wants her. And he has you when he is not with her...
Nice! :confused:

Listen, what goes around comes around..!

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Originally Posted by Gee12

First I didnt cheat, he cheated on me and we broke up (Talaniman)

We know that.
So how did u feel when YOU found out your husband was cheating on you?? :cool:

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Originally Posted by Gee12

Hi, I been in a relationship for 12 years, recently my husband and i broke up which has been 2 year's already. I stop loving my husband for the past 5 years because he have been cheating and had kids out of wedlock. I have know a friend for three years which was supported to me and always there for me. we ended up seeing each other and been together for 1 year already, the sad part is he is married and has been married for 15 years. He says he loves me and wants to be with me and says in the run who knows what will happen. I broke up with him twice and i stopped seeing him, but he stills comes to me and tells me that he loves me and he can't let go, and i fall again in his trap. i want to break up this relationship with him because i dont want to hurt his wife and I've told him we have to end this now, because someone is going to get hurt what should i do or tell him? :confused:

Tell him to geth the f*** away from you and out of your life or you'll tell his wife(even if you won't really do that). "I love you, but I can't leave my wife, will you still be my side piece of ???" How lame is that--but that's EXACTLY the kind of bull line you are buying from him!