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  • Jan 2, 2010, 05:35 AM
    bigb99
    From childhood friends to confused lovers.
    I've had a huge crush on my best female friend for years, and vice versa. We non-verbally agreed not to act on it because we were both young and we went to a school where you would die trying to balance a relationship AND the intense coursework.

    Time passed, we graduated and left for colleges in different countries. We had flings with other people and I honestly thought I was over her till one day she called me out of the blue and said that she can't stop thinking about me. All the feelings came rushing back. We went back home for summer break and we took our relationship to the next level, and things were going great. We decided to try a long distance relationship when we went back to college.

    After 3 months into the LDR, she said she wasn't feeling the same way about me as she did before. We decided to take a break, and ultimately broke up. We vowed there would be no awkwardness between us and we've kept true to that.

    We came back home for winter break (where we are right now), and all the feelings have returned on both our parts. We've spoken and we don't know what to do. We both come home twice a year and can't get enough of each other, but once we go back to college all the feelings seem to ebb away. Last night we drunkenly hooked up after swearing not to do anything until we decided what would become of us.

    We're really confused and don't know what to do. Any advice?
  • Jan 2, 2010, 05:43 AM
    redhed35

    Sounds like lost in lust,and out of sight out of mind.

    If you want a relationship apart,you both have to work at it,esp long distance... what you have when you meet is lust.

    If you both happy with that,fair enough,if not,stop doing it,your not kids!

    If you want more,sit down and see if you can both figure it out.
  • Jan 2, 2010, 05:48 AM
    sully123

    I agree with redhed, you need to talk. Your not kids, like she said, either figure out a solution or move on.

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