My girlfriend wants a break to sort her head out
My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2 years I'm 25 she's 24, a couple of weeks ago she said to me that she wants a break because she hasn't been happy for the past 5-6 months for a few reasons, my insercruity around her like if I don't her from her when she goes out ill get the hump with her and I can sometimes come across needy as well and we did bicker a lot... she has her own things like wieght and confidence that she wants to sort out her self as she feels like she has lot her independence... the situation of our relastionship is that we were mates living together and the we started going out and have lived together since day 1 so no dating period and we did get wrapped up in each other quite abit, I said to her I don't mind give her space so I can sort my selfout and so can she... we said we would give each other 2 months then meet up and make a decision as to where we want to go with this... so I moved out and I'm renting my own place and she has her own place, the first couple of day after moving out she was texting me and making sure that I took stuff I needed from our flat and food etc and she also rang me to make sure I was OK. Then the next weekl I didn't here anything and then she text me saying that something had arrived in the post and shall she forward it to my new address... no in this time I had already looked into sorting out my insercruities and had a counselling session that night... I text her this say " i have listened to what you said and i am doing something about it" "i am seeing a conseller about it"... her reply was "good babes im glad your doing something about it :) "... then christmas day came and she text me first thing in the morning "happy christmas babe hope you have a lovely day" so I thought I haven't spoke to her for a week and a half I give her a call as it is christmas, so we spoke and I noticed that she kept telling me about her misfortunes that she had experinced over the past week or so and that she was worried about me and so on... so we said goodbye. Then about 2 hours later I text her saying "nice to talk to you and if i dont get a chance i just wanted to tell you that i do love you"... anhour later she text me back "love you too xx" since christmas day I haven't heard anything... my question to everyone is she wants this break to sort her head out and she what she wants to do about the relationship and said to me will meet up in 2 months which is end of jan beginning of feb but whether I do anything about my issues that she has how will she know that I've made an effort and is she takingt this time just to see if she would rather be single vbecasue at the end of the day it seems to me that she has full control of this situation, she decided how long she wanted to the break for and she will decide if she still wants to give it another go or not... no before I left her flat I said if there's someone else or you want to go and find someone else I'm not hanging around for you to make your mind up which her reply was "men are the last thing on my mind i want to use this time for me"... and I said to her if we did give it another go I would like to take it slow and biuld it up like dating again I stay at my place she stays at hers and we see each other a couple times a week etc... she even wrote me aletter just before I left to say that I'm not a bad person she doesn't hate me one bit and she loves and cares for me verymuch, be positive enjoy myself with work gym and friends andget my indepence back and hope fully when she sorted her head out and I fell bet we can see about sorting something out...
I just want to know if people think I'm wasting my time waiting for her to get back to me because if she felt unhappy in the relationship for 6 months what 2 months apart going to achieve if she doesn't know that I've changed at all becuae we haven't met up untioll judgement day...
One thing ill leave you with is that I said to her if you don't want to be with me then why not end it and her reply was "i just dont know what i want to do" well its been 3 weeks near on and she hasn't told me eother or so how long do you need to decide... and inevitably I don't really have a saying in anything because she will have the deciding answer... she know I love and care about her as well and I don't hate her 1 bit either, her family love me and my family love her. Do I need to get in contact and say we need to have some sort of direction? Is it to early to say that... and just to let everyone know I haven't called or text her once its her been texting me... but no of these texts have been anything to do with missing me or wanting to see me I mean its new years eve and I want to see her so bad but I cant... finally my nan said that she emailed her and said in so many words that we did bicker and have our issues which need to sorted out and hopefully in 2 months we can she what happens...
Help me people!! :confused: