Do I really have to tell my best friend everything? Because she tells me a lot like really but when I tell her stuff I feel that I'm talking too much about myself and I don't like that although she tells me more than I tell her. I've told her the things she should know about but I have more.

Don't tell her anything you don't want to get out. Someday you two may no longer be friends, and then she might choose to tell whatever what she knows about you. And of course, once you two are no longer friends, you will not reveal all her deepest secrets that she has told you.

And don't tease her with "I have more but I'm not gonna tell you."

If it's private information and I want it to be a secret, I don't tell anyone else, even a best friend.

You should never make yourself uncomfortable by telling something to a friend. If you are, then you just don't tell them. There's NOTHING that says you have to disclose a certain amount of personal information, just because she's your best friend. Only tell her things if you're comfortable doing so, not because you think you owe her something.

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you should never make yourself uncomfortable by telling something to a friend. if you are, then you just don't tell them. there's NOTHING that says you have to disclose a certain amount of personal information, just because she's your best friend. only tell her things if you're comfortable doing so, not because you think you owe her something.

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Its because sometimes she's like why don't you ever tell me anything I tell you everything

How old are you? The idea that someone HAS to share information about themselves just because you shared first, is something that is usually outgrown as you get older.

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how old are you? the idea that someone HAS to share information about themselves just because you shared first, is something that is usually outgrown as you get older.

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Um I'm 15

OK, then the idea that friendship is a matter of sharing information equally, is still very real for you.

You need to decide what you can share with her without feeling uncomfortable. Start with little things, like enjoying an embarrassing song.

Peer pressure is huge for people your age.

As Wondergirl stated, do not share any very personal, intimate, details about your life to anyone that you could possibly have a "falling out" with.

Stick with the basic stuff.

Don't tell her anything that you wouldn't want to tell at the front of your class.

"Friends today, enemies tommorrow."

Always be respectful of other people, and their personal "secrets".

Some friendships last for a lifetime. Some don't last to the next semester.

Be the best friend that you can be to others. And in doing that, they will be as close to you as family.