How do you guys feel about your first loves?
It's hard for me to relate to a lot of the stuff that's put up here because I've only had one real relationship, I see a lot of people talking about their "most recent" ex, but I don't know how it feels because I only have one. I've heard the first cut is the deepest and that you never "get over" your first love but I've heard and read many contradicting ideas regarding this. Some say, you'll always be in love with your first, others say, you'll always "love" as in you'll care about them but not necessarily in love. As my ex told me in tears when I confronted her about moving on so quickly, she said "she'll always be in love with me, and want to be with me, but that it was unhealthy so we just have to live with the pain." Uh... live with pain? No thank you.
But anyway the big thing for me is the memories are the only thing that really bothers me now, I don't really care so much about her and her new guy, I don't know why, maybe its cause I know she's downgrading, or maybe I'm just over it, but the memories are def. what eat me up when I have a setback.
Fortunately for my ex, she moved right before we broke up, and we go to diff. schools so she hasn't really had to relive anything or visit the old places we used to go. Unfortunately for both of us, she's moving back, and her family's buying a house in the same neighborhood she used to live in which is the same neighborhood I live in, this upcoming summer. :-/ But anyway, I digress,
My questions are:
1) How do you feel about your first love, and how do the memories effect you?
2) Is it easier or harder to get over your future relationships?
3) And when they say, "You'll never get over your first" does get over mean "i'll think of them romantically" or "I'll always care about them"
Thank you and God bless :-)