He is a person I like. After he and I had dinner today, I couldn't help crying when I had to say goodbye to him. I have to be ready to go to another city to work soon. I have to leave him. He gave me a hug when I started to cry. Then he left. I took a taxi back home. On the way home, he texted me that he left quickly because he saw me so sad. He said he could stay with me again before I leave.
But my mom told me not to be sad on this. She told me he is a successful man, and that I am just one of women he would treat in this way. I am no special for him. She also said I was stupid because I just met him for my personal emotion, not for networking for my future career. My mom told me I should take the chance to get help from him, because he is a very successful business man.
I am sad because my mom told me that no excellent men would like women like me. I am just naïve enough to be taken advantage of. Does he really think as my mom said, or does he really like me? I actually wished that he stayed with me longer today when I cried. But he left. Maybe he doesn't really like me.

If you are leaving, what gain is accomplished guessing his feelings?

Maybe your Mother is trying to save you the pain when you are moving on in your career. Sounds like even if knowing he cared about you, it would only make your situation more difficult.

Could you give a little more information? Are you leaving the area for a trip or for good? Who is the man, how long have you been dating him (are you actually dating him?)

It's hard to give you an answer or advice without some extra info ;)

It's difficult to say how he feels about you, but my guess is that he is a caring person or he wouldn't have been concerned about your crying. If you are leaving I would just let it go and forget about him.

Your Mom simply doesn't want to see you get hurt. You are just as good as any "excellent" man, so don't let that enter your mind. Be proud of who you are and hold your head high. Mr. Right will come along sooner or later and he just may be one of those "excellent" men you're talking about. :)

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Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes... just be an illusion. - Javan

Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened… - Dr. Seuss

I deeply love him, a married man. After I told him how I felt about him, he told me that I should put my emotion more on my boyfriend and I should focus more on studying. He said he actually liked me very much too. He said I was cute and he wanted to hug me and kiss me.
Does what he said mean a start or an ending for us?

It means that he isn't going to initiate anything, but he's not going to stop anything either.

Now that your question is answered,
Don't pursue it. Only pain will follow, I guarantee it. What you need to do is just let him go. Even if all your wildest dreams come true and he leaves his wife for you, what happens when another girl comes along who has an interest in him? He isn't going to stick around if he didn't even stick around for his wife.

For your sake, his wives, and his, let this go.

Ok, FIRST, he has a wife so forget anything you have ever said or felt. It doesn't matter so he is off limits. As Wolfrey said, if he is willing to mess around on his wife anyway then he would probably mess around on you too. So, tell him goodbye and focus on your boyfriend like he told you.

It means that he'll gladly sleep with you, but he won't form a serious relationship with you, develop serious feelings for you, or leave his wife for you. Can you live with that?

What he said doesn't mean a thing. He's married! Who cares if he wants you in a sexual way, he's married! He has a wife! He's not available.

Stop going after someone that belongs to someone else. Concentrate on your boyfriend (poor shmuck) and leave the married men alone! :(

Is this the married man you're interested in, or your boyfriend?
Threads were merged.

Sounds to me you are infatuated with this married guy and he is off limits. Save yourself the aggravation and hurt its not going to get you anywhere. He will stay married and offer you nothing. It seems to me he is a guy that wants to take advantage of a girl, and don't make yourself available to him. There are plenty of guys that are single, that can you offer youa honest relationship. Your not going to get that from him.

When your threads were merged I noticed you sound so desperate for love, you'll take anything. Talk to your mom some more, or do as the married guy says and focus on your studies, and your career, stop chasing guys who are unavailable to you.