We were totally in love and nothing was wrong I guess we were so happy and he wanted to be with me forever and would do anything for me but he also had bad qualities. He didn't understand why I did things for other people and didn't like it when I hung out with my friends or wasn't with him on his days off and was constantly makingme feel uncomfortable about the clothes I wore because he didn't like people seeing my bra straps and silly things like that.

He is also 19 when I'm only 16 and we both have had very different lives and different friends and what not.. my parents were quite strict on us and it made it difficult.

Bvut I feel horrible because he never tried to make me feel like that he just wanted to be the perfect boyfriend. And I still love him dearly and haven't stopped crying since yesterday every time I think about him I cry.

Helpp I want him back but I don't know if its just the emotions or a turely want and need him back.

I've been in this situation before.

You two are just simply different personality types and if you want it to work, both of you absolutely must realize this and accept it. Otherwise, one or the two of you will be stifling your true feelings and eventually it'll blow out of control. I'm not surprised it was you as it tends to be the more sociable one that will accommodate the other, at least for a time because you two probably really do love each other.

Just remember, relationships will always take work and you will encounter different challenges. A careful self-evaluation such as a DISC assessment and understanding of others will help. Things should get better and better over time when both are willing and able to communicate effectively rather than hold back.

Take the time to really think if he is really what you want. No one can answer that for you. You need to decide, but make sure if you do that it is really what you want and what you will stick with. You don't want to get back together with him just to split up all over again and put yourself and him through more pain of breaking up.

He sounds controlling-and you're at an age where you should be concentrating on school and having fun with your friends.
I think you made the right decision and soon you'll feel better once you've healed from the breakup.

You're crying because breaking up is a really hard thing to do. But, remember you broke up with him because you knew it was all too difficult.

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he didn't understand why I did things for other people and didn't like it when I hung out with my friends or wasn't with him on his days off and was constantly makingme feel uncomfortable about the clothes I wore because he didn't like people seeing my bra straps and silly things like that.

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A BF shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable about yourself or question the good things you do for others.

Leave it for a week or so and then reassess how you feel. It's too soon to judge whether you really want him back or not.