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  • Dec 29, 2009, 02:52 PM
    Talal.
    I fell like I hate myself sometimes
    Hello,
    I have this situation that I fell to hate myself when I done something
    Stupid, and I know it is not really stupid but this situation keep come to me, for example I sent a massage to my brother by mistake than he called me and said
    I do not understand your massage so I told him oh I'm sorry
    I sent the massage by mistake after his called I felt like I want to hit
    Myself another example is I'm little shy to people I do not know
    So when I took to this people I fell the same way(I want to hit
    Myself) and I told myself why I do not say this and why I say this, know
    He will think this or that

    I'm Arab from Saudi Arabia 19 years old.

    Sorry my English is poor,and I hope this is the right part to my question
  • Dec 30, 2009, 02:00 AM
    Clough
    Hi, Talal.

    Okay, how about we work on this one thing at a time, please?

    Why was the message to your brother a mistake?

    Thanks!
  • Dec 30, 2009, 05:38 AM
    Talal.

    Hi,Clough

    I was going to send the message to my friend but I sent it to my brother by mistake

    And the massage was asking my friend if there is class tomorrow or not
    I hope that I understand you.

    Thanks.
  • Dec 30, 2009, 02:20 PM
    Clough
    Hi again, Talal.

    I'm sure that you understand me, but I think the you have some issues with confidence and self-doubt about yourself.

    Those are things that you can overcome in order to feel good about yourself.

    Do you ever feel anxious and lacking in your self-esteem, please?

    Thanks!
  • Dec 31, 2009, 10:00 AM
    Talal.

    Hi,
    If the meaning of anxious means that I worried about my past I think there is nothing that I worried abbot , and about lacking in my self-esteem actually I do not know, look I want to tell you something might help you to understand my situation , yesterday my teacher came to me and ask me why you are so quite in class he embarrassed me and I do not know what to tell him I fell like people want to be my friend but I think because I am quite they have difficult to contacted with me another thing I want to tell you that some of my friends tow actually that before they Know me they ware shy from me (like they cannot said dirty words or smoking front me ) because I look so quiet and they do not accept me to do something wrong like Smoking or something like that, sorry I told you so much but really want To change,
    Thank you Clough and I really appreciated.
  • Dec 31, 2009, 06:22 PM
    Clough
    Thank you for giving me some additional information, Talal.

    Sending a message in error shouldn't be a reason to be "hard" on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes.

    I take a chance by writing to you here. You also take a chance by writing me in return.

    A good part of life is about making choices and taking risks...

    How do you think that your teacher embarrassed you, please?

    Thanks!
  • Jan 1, 2010, 09:20 AM
    Talal.

    Hi,
    I know that sending a message in error should not be hard on myself but it is become hard I do not know why.

    My teacher embarrassed me because he ask me and I did not
    Know what to say and I became silent.

    Thanks.
  • Jan 1, 2010, 05:36 PM
    Clough
    Hi again, Talal.

    What sort of good things are happening in your life, please?

    Please list as many of the good things that you can here.

    Thanks!
  • Jan 2, 2010, 09:15 AM
    Talal.

    Hi,
    Ummmm, the good things happening in my life are my parents are alive,
    I do not have trouble in money, I have my own car, and I am in college.
    I made comparing between me and some people in my society.
    I really feel happy most of the times but when I remembered
    Thant I got embarrassed I fell very bad.

    Thanks Clough.
  • Jan 2, 2010, 02:50 PM
    Clough
    You've really got a lot of good things going for you, Talal.

    I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. Most people do...

    The important thing is to realize that we're never through and to not give up!

    Some of my mistakes that I've made "haunt" me to this day. But, I need to go on and not let what I've done in the past slow me up. I know that I can do it, but it's hard.

    You too, can carry on and move forward with your life. A large part of that, is a matter of choice...

    Do you have at least a few people, outside of your family, with whom you're close and consider them to be friends?

    Thanks!
  • Jan 3, 2010, 05:44 AM
    Talal.

    Thanks Clough for your words.
    My problem is I get sad and feel heating myself for something
    Dose not worth it, I started to try not remember these things
    And told myself it is OK and it does not worth to be sad.
    Actually I have few people that I can consider them friends,
    They are with me in college but I feel bored because one of them like to talk about politics and know a lot of people they may be famous but I am not interested in them and when he ask me about them he get surprise when I told him I do not know this guy and he told me "if there any one do not
    This guy" and sometimes we talk about movies and sport,he is good frind,the other one is good person he talk with me about movies and sports but he do not know much about me.
    I used to invite them in my home to play PS3 and watching movies but I stopped because I got bored.
    Thanks and I hope to have a great life.

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