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  • Dec 29, 2009, 02:51 PM
    jesshicuh09
    Do you think he genuinely likes me or he just wants sex?
    I've known this guy for about a year. My friend tried to hook us up in the beginning of the year but we implicitly decided to be friends. We kept in touch for several months, but only hung out once. Eventually we just stopped talking to each other.

    Well we ran into each other a couple of weeks ago. He's been texting me ever since. We started on a friendly level, just getting caught up with our lives, joking around, etc. about a week later the texts started getting really flirty. He started turning things into sexual innuendos. I was just going along with them to be funny, and at one point I said, "i think you need a lesson in female anatomy lol". So he said, "well maybe your female anatomy.. when are you gonna give me this lesson?" I thought they were getting out of hand, so I told him that he needed to get to know me in person first. He told me to pick a date and time to hang out, and when I asked when he was available, he gave me his work schedule for the week.
  • Dec 29, 2009, 04:28 PM
    redhed35

    Why not try the date and see how it goes?

    Flirting is part of the process and he may be trying his hand,but maybe not, all you can do is go on the date and set the pace, if he wants to see you again he will ask.

    If he just wants sex he won't hang around too long, and then you will have your answer.
  • Dec 30, 2009, 11:51 AM
    jaime90

    Be very cautious. You barely know the guy, you're not even dating and he's hinting at sex. Whatever you do (I suggest keeping things friendly, and not sending him the wrong messages, or being too flirty with him) Be cautious! There's a good chance he just wants you for sex... After all, it seems like that is all he wants you for- you haven't even had any emotional involvement or attatchement.
  • Dec 30, 2009, 12:18 PM
    artlady

    I think he may genuinely like you and want sex.

    I don't know too many guys who would turn it down.

    Make sure you don't get carried away with the sexting and give him the wrong impression.

    You need to start on the same page and have the same expectations for the friendship or it will be doomed before it even has a chance to get started.

    Make yourself clear and see where it goes.

    Although I do think it's a little crass that he sent his schedule.He should learn how to properly ask a girl out.
  • Dec 30, 2009, 04:13 PM
    Jake2008

    I don't think sexting is a very good idea. It's brave to be 'funny' in a text, but it does paint a picture, and set the tone for expectations.

    Before it goes any further, skip the sexting, even joking, and hang out with him, or date him. Let him know loud and clear that you aren't there to teach him about female anatomy.

    See where it goes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
  • Dec 30, 2009, 04:32 PM
    h_leann_b

    You already let him know you needed to get to know him before anything got sexual. I think its worth at least hanging out and seeing where things go if you have been getting along with him. If he pushes the issue of sex, just tell him that you are not ready for it, and want to be in a relationship or married(whatever your beliefs are). If he doesn't back off, then forget him.

    Just be clear to him what you want. You will find out pretty quickly if he just wants to get laid. Good luck.

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