Dad hates daughters husband
My daughter (28) and her dad (60)have always had a somewhat explosive relationship. I (56) have always said it is because they are so much alike... can be very loving and very hard headed. My daughter married a man who my husband truly seemed to like and the extended family all seem to fit... same small town upbringing, church attendance, heck even the same jobs... everybody was getting along great! My husband and SIL even share the same car hobby... and then the dreaded miscommunication happened over the movement of some car parts and trailer.
MY husband got mad , the SIL apologized , and I think they both over reacted. Anyway , that was February and my husband has still not gotten over it. The SIL tried but eventually gave up. And guess who is in the middle... my daughter and me. I feel the relationship can be fixed but my husband won't budge. He continues to ignore my son in law and says it is a two way street. And now there is a new grandson. My daughter says she is finished and does not want her Dad around her son if he can't treat her husband better.
Dad says I always take the daughter's side and interestingly she says I always take Dad's side. Arrrrrgh, I try to keep the side of peace but I'm tired and they don't listen to my anyway. A long time family friend has also tried to help but nothing has changed. What makes a grown man act this way? I can't imagine giving up my child at any age but that seems to be the course my husband has taken. She is extremely hurt... I can tell by the tears she sheds.