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  • Dec 25, 2009, 06:05 PM
    krohmeboy
    I like this girl at church but I don't know how to talk to her and make her like me.
    Young love, I like this girl at church. I see her every Sunday, and she's one of my friends, she knows that I like her, but I don't know how to smooth her down, make her feel like I'm the one. I'm in need of help I don't know what to do.

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  • Dec 25, 2009, 06:30 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    You merely be yourself and talk with her, don't try and pretend anything
  • Dec 25, 2009, 06:36 PM
    Cat1864
    First, a bit of advice on how to get advice. Please, use punctuation. Reading a post without any punctuation is like a grammar worksheet in English class. We have to try to figure out where one sentence ends and the next one begins. That can lead to misunderstanding just what you are wanting to say, ask, or know.

    Now, you can't make someone like you as more than a friend if that isn't the way the person feels. That said, the best way to get to know her better and ask her out is to be yourself and talk to her.

    Why do you want her to think you need 'help'? That almost makes it sound like you want to try play games to get her attention. Playing games is a bad way to begin a relationship. It can end up causing mistrust and hurt feelings.

    Like I said before be yourself. If she already likes you, then changing how you act around her would probably change the way she feels. Show some confidence and ask her out.

    One word of caution, if you are both teens, then her parents may have something to say about her going out with anyone. You may have to stick with group activities/outings. However, that is a great way to get to know someone.
  • Dec 25, 2009, 06:49 PM
    Misshersomuch

    Here's the best tip you can get, even though it's old:

    BE YOURSELF!

    You don't want to pretend to be someone or something you are not. No matter if it's "better" if you are that way. You're going to regret it. If the girl finds out, what will she think? She'll realize you're not really the guy she fell for, and will be hurt. Big mistake.

    Just act like yourself.

    Take the chance. Think about it this way. If you take the chance and get hurt, okay, you'll get over it. But if you don't, you're always going to regret not taking the chance.
    And who knows, maybe you'll succeed, to put it that way.

    But as I said, don't pretend to be something you are not. It will only backfire at you.

    I don't know how close you are to her (much more info would be really nice), but you should start getting to know her even better, no matter what.

    Ask her on a date, take her for dinner or something else you think is suitable and that both of you will enjoy.

    Good luck!
  • Dec 25, 2009, 06:58 PM
    confuzed1

    Pray about it. Mostly be yourself around her because if you act like an obseesed fan it is going to probably freak her out a little bit.
  • Dec 25, 2009, 09:08 PM
    Clough
    Hi, krohmeboy!

    If she's one of your friends, have you already done anything together with just the two of you or as a group with others, please?

    Thanks!
  • Dec 26, 2009, 10:55 AM
    talaniman

    Your already friends, so do you have her phone number? Ask her for it. Then you can talk privately about it.

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