I'm currently 18 weeks pregnant and really depressed I don't know what to do. I'm not hungry, I can't sleep plus I feel tired and sad all the time. I'm currently living with my inlaws and my mother in law strongly thinks that I don't need it at all and it hurts me a lot cause only I know how I feel inside. I'm scare for my baby and myself since I've had suicidal thoughs that I've been able to control until now. But what if I couldn't? What am I supposed to do I need medication but I care about my baby a lot and I don't want her to have any withdraw synthoms when she is born. I'm so worried cause nobody really understands me and I feel alone. I just want to be happy and protected and I don't feel like that right now. I see all my world crushing in front of me and I don't know what to do. I need help and I'm trying to get it but am I doing the right thing? Would antidepressants really hurt my baby? Is it worth the chance? And how should I let people know that ultimatly its my body and I get the final word on what meds I'm going to take?

Hi, gabriela299!

Have you spoken with your physician about the way that you're thinking and feeling, please?

Thanks!

I did today actually he prescribed me prozac but I'm extremely worried about the side effects. I don't know what to do... should I take the meds disregarding my unborn daughter?

Hi again, gabriela299!

Being pregnant, you're going to be going through all sorts of mood swings. That's normal. Disregarding your unborn daughter isn't even a consideration.

I don't have all of the answers concerning a woman taking any medications of any kind while she is pregnant. But, I can give you some moral and logical support to help you to not feel alone.

The people who would be best to advise you concerning medications might not even be online here right now. But, if it takes too long for one of them to notice and address your thread, I'll call upon some of them to come to this thread.

Your doctor does know that you're pregnant, correct?

Thanks!

Yes my doctor is fully aware of the pregnancy and he told me the side effects but very lightly. My boyfriend is mad at me because I would show him this threat. Tonight is the second in a row that he doesn't speak to me. Thank you for your response and I would really appreciate if you could pass this threat along.

What do you mean by "threat", please? Or, do you mean "thread"?

I will be alerting others about this thread. Please also realize, that it's the holiday time for a lot of people, and there aren't as many people on the site during those sort of times.

One of the people that I will alert will be J_9, our Health Expert. But, I'm sure that she most likely has her hands full at work right now.

Others will come, though and hopefully, J_9 will also come along soon, too!

Thanks!

Thank you for replying. I really appreciate it.

I'm putting together a list of people to tell about your thread. I will send them a private message and also send one to you so that you know people will be coming to this thread to help you. This will take me about five minutes to accomplish.

Thanks!

Honey ,if your doctor prescribed something you have to trust your doctor.

Given this medium we really can't diagnose anyone and you need to talk to your doctor.

Tell him or her what your concerns are.

They are getting paid to take care of you and you should never leave the office with questions!

So many doctors talk in a way we don't get but you have to tell them I need to know this,this is my child and you need to make me understand what is happening.

YOU are PAYING them to do a job for YOU and that means YOU have a say .

Take control and know that you need to never leave that office not knowing what is happening.That is not what they get paid for and you do not deserve to be cheated.

Look on line and get educated and the next time you see your doctor be ready to ask the right questions.
Its your right sweetheart,don't let anyone deprive you of that !

Hi, artlady!

You're one of the people that I alerted to this thread. I'm glad that you came along here! You did so without getting my message first. I just sent it out.

gabriela299, would you please let me know, on this thread, that you received my private message? I'm almost out of room for private messages and can't save them like I normally would because I'm not using my own computer, but the computer of a friend.

Thanks!

I got your private message. I really appreciate that. And I did questions but my inlaw and fionce are so concern that they don't want me taking any medicationg disregarding my emotions. I'm guessing that's my main problem since the side effect of prozac is nt as bad. And some times you have to put things in a balance I guess. And suicidal thoughs can't be good for neither me or the baby.

You might also want to get some in-person counseling, gabriela299!

I did that for a number of years, and it really helped!

If money might be an issue at all, (I don't know), there are places that counsel people for free or on a sliding fee scale.

I'm sure that others will come along here. It will just take some patience...

I might even alert some others.

Thanks!

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i got ur private message. i really appreciate that. and i did questions but my inlaw and fionce are so concern that they dont want me taking any medicationg disregarding my emotions. im guessing thats my main problem since the side effect of prozac is nt as bad. and some times you have to put things in a balance i guess. and suicidal thoughs can't be good for neither me or the baby.

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Honey, what I think needs to happen is that everyone who you love and trust needs to go to your doctor visits with you and understand what YOU are going through.

I think it is important to stay with your meds as they won't hurt your baby.
You being really upset is not cool for you or the baby and that is something EVERYONE needs to understand.

This is a beautiful time in your life and you need to do what you feel is right ,and talk to your doctors and make sure that you are on the same page.

Tell them your concerns and trust them.If you have a good relationship with your doctor ,one of trust and open communication then this beautiful experience can be what it is meant to be.

SPEAK UP to your doctor and the people who are telling you different need to go with you and get on board... or not!

You are so lucky to have a baby in you ! Its awww in my head.I'm 55 so I'm a grandma but I still remember that beautiful feeling of my babies in me .

God Bless you.. if you need to talk we are here!

I am sorry you are going through a very tough time right now. Rest assured it will get better.

I really can't add anything more to what Artlady has said. Your doctor knows you are pregnant, and he prescribed a medication that is one that is okay to take during pregnancy.

Hi Gabriela.

I was on anti-depressants with my second pregnancy. I had been taking them for around a year before I got pregnant and when I found out I was concerned about taking them during the pregnancy. My doctor assured me that it was okay, gave me information on the drug I was taking which included info on the tests they'd done to assure that it was safe for pregnant women and then urged me to get a second opinion, just to ease my mind.

I'm still on that same drug, Celexa, and my daughter is now 7 years old, very healthy, happy, smart. The best thing was, I could go through the pregnancy without the constant depression I would have faced had I not been on the meds.

Depression while pregnant doesn't only affect you, it also has an affect on your unborn child. Mental health and physical health are very important during pregnancy.

I know that a lot of people are scared to take medication while they're pregnant, usually because they don't have all the facts. Talk to your boyfriend, ask him if he's willing to go to the doctor with you so he can ask questions and hopefully put his mind at ease.

You need to take care of yourself otherwise you'll be in no shape to take care of this baby, and yes, you are taking care of it, even though it's not born yet.

Keep in mind that most anti-depressants take a while to start taking effect. Most take anywhere up to 6 weeks before you notice a difference. Some anti-depressants can have a few side effects, mainly in the beginning, like dry mouth, excessive sweating, trouble sleeping. Those side effects usually go away once your body adjusts to the drug.

I urge you to take your doctors advice. I would hate for you to go through this pregnancy in the state you're in when there's help available.

Good luck and please keep us posted.

Thank you! I did get your message! And I'm actually worried about the meds because my husband and his fam doesn't want me to take any meds because of the baby but at the same time should I put my life and my daughters on the line due to my depresion and suicidal thoughts? I don't know I guess tgats why I'm more concern and my mother in law really doesn't want me to take any meds. I feel I should be taking the decision cause its nt a matter of a poll. I should decide what to do. I don't know what to do! I want meds cause I feel I need them but at the same time I need to protect my daughter without feeling pressure from people around me.

Thank you to all of you I'm going to take them to my nxt appoinment because I really need to start feeling happy and I can't deal with this in any other way. Once again thank you!

You will get through this. Please listen to your doctor. He or she is your best resource.

Thanks!

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thank you to all of you im going to take them to my nxt appoinment because i really need to start feeling happy and i can't deal with this in any other way. once again thank you!

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You sound like the only smart one in the bunch .
I have all kinds of confidence in you ,I can see you have a good head.
For real ,your :cool:

Merry Christmas !

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thank you to all of you im going to take them to my nxt appoinment because i really need to start feeling happy and i can't deal with this in any other way. once again thank you!

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You sound like the only smart one in the bunch .
I have all kinds of confidence in you ,I can see you have a good head.
For real ,your :cool:

Merry Christmas !

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That was very, very kind artlady!

Thank you!