I think I took to long to ask her out so she became uninterested in me. She ignores my text messages more now. And she use to ask me to come with her to the mall a lot. And use to smile and laugh when she sees me and waves at me when she sees me. But now there's none of that. We don't really hang out that much. And I just recently asked her to hangout this week and she said OK. Now I need to figure out what to do to get it back how it was. Should I tell her how I feel but not ask her out? I also have problems of thinking what to do. I'm not so good around girls. What should we do? Where should we go? Should I tell her how I feel? I really like her. Please help

Honesty is the best policy. Tell her you like her, what do you have to lose?

If you're seeing her, why don't you go to see a movie together - that way you don't have to do a lot of talking and you can talk about the movie when you get out.

You could also go to the mall and do some Xmas shopping - or grab some bargains after Xmas!

If you feel uncomfortable talking about your feelings - just keep it friendly and see how she reacts. No point in declaring your feelings if she's been cool - you'll just feel like an idiot if they're not reciprocated.

Why don't you ask her to come out and tell her face to face about your feelings for her?

I just said this on a different question:
It doesn't take a scientific formula to ask girls out. A lot of guys read WAY too far into how women operate, and they are so afraid of hurting their feelings. Stop freaking out about who, what, where when and why. If she isn't interested anymore, leave her alone- she's not interested. If you think she still may be interested, ask her to a movie, her choice. Take her to dinner, ask her over to your place and watch a movie there. You don't have to go overboard with anything, and you don't have to over-analyze. Just cut to the chase. If the girl likes movies take her to a movie, etc. It's not as complicated as a lot of people might make it out to be.

I make it a point to just have fun with a person, and take my time going into the feelings stuff. Better I think to go out, have fun, and pay attention.

Jumping someone with your feelings so soon, can overwhelm, and scare them. You don't even know how you feel about her, or how she feels about you, and how you will feel as you get to know her better. Have fun while you find out.

Confessions of everlasting love is definitely out for the time being. Maybe next year if your still going out.

That means don't get carried away by intense feelings.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I make it a point to just have fun with a person, and take my time going into the feelings stuff. Better I think to go out, have fun, and pay attention.

Jumping someone with your feelings so soon, can overwhelm, and scare them. You don't even know how you feel about her, or how she feels about you, and how you will feel as you get to know her better. Have fun while you find out.

Confessions of everlasting love is definitely out for the time being. Maybe next year if your still going out.

That means don't get carried away by intense feelings.

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I agree Tal, particularly if he's nervous and she's unsure - best to keep it light and easy.

Why don't you just tell your feelings to her? Apparently you two don't talk so if she doesn't like you back it won't be a big change in your life. But if you really for love her, don't stop trying :)