Ask Me Help Desk

Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum.php)
-   Relationships (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forumdisplay.php?f=277)
-   -   What does it mean when she says she does not want to be with anyone that you hurt her (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/showthread.php?t=426999)

  • Dec 21, 2009, 11:36 AM
    davidcastleberry
    I have been with a chick for six years we have three kid together she says I hurt her pretty bad and she wants to focus on herself we still live together which makes it that much harder. She says she still cares but she don't want anybody right now. What do I do.
  • Dec 21, 2009, 11:38 AM
    Romefalls19

    Going by the limited information you provided. I'd say it means, you hurt her in someway and she does not want to be with anyone for awhile because of the pain
  • Dec 21, 2009, 11:53 AM
    talaniman

    It means you have hurt her feelings, and leave her alone.
  • Dec 21, 2009, 12:23 PM
    Alty

    It means that you screwed up and she's done.

    Time to move on and learn from past mistakes.
  • Dec 21, 2009, 12:40 PM
    adam_89

    Simple, Leave her alone.
  • Dec 21, 2009, 01:21 PM
    Alty
    First, you don't start a new thread on the same topic;

    His threads have been merged and edited because of the new info that he omitted, mainly the kids he has with this female.

    Second, you have kids together, so you'll have to talk, make arrangements for the kids, who's going to care for them, where they're going to live etc.

    It sounds like it's over. Sadly you can't just walk away because there are children involved.
  • Dec 21, 2009, 01:33 PM
    Cat1864

    Since this one has more answers, I'll post in here. From the other thread you started:

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by davidcastleberry View Post
    i have been with a chick for six years we have three kid together she says i hurt her pretty bad and she wants to focus on herself we still live together which makes it that much harder. she says she still cares but she dont want anybody right now. what do i do.

    Do you know how you hurt her?

    You start by asking her if she wants to go to counseling so that you can dissolve your relationship as cleanly as possible to keep the children from getting hurt.

    You start looking for a new place to live and together work out a reasonable visitation schedule and child support.

    You do your best to show your children that even though mom and dad can't be together right now that they still love them.

    You do everything that you can to make sure that the children do not feel like they have to chose sides or are in the middle of a battlefield.
  • Dec 21, 2009, 02:53 PM
    talaniman

    Since merging you posts have new info in them, it does make a difference that you have kids together.

    That means even though the living arrangements must change, somebody has to leave, there must be in place an agreement, either legal, or mutual, that takes care of the children, and provides for their needs. That comes first.

    You no doubt will have to work together to be good influences on their lives, also a priority.

    Maybe your lousy lovers, but you better be good parents, or the kids will suffer.

  • All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:14 PM.