Before you all start laughing, I'm being serious. I'm scared of ghosts. I'm so afarid that I can't sleep or eat normaly anymore. This is for real, some very strange things have been happening in my house for the past months, and I think I've started believing in ghosts because I've actually seen unexplainable things happening before my eyes.

I live alone and I'm terrified. To be worse, my boyfriend just said he wasn't in love with me, so I don't know where will my serious relationship go from here. Meaning, I might lost a person whom I've slept with for years. Now I'm dead scared of sleeping alone.

I'm not crazy. I'm not saying it's ghost for certain, if they even exist at all. I just want to know how to stop being afraid. I stay up all night, I'm tired during the day, I'm under enormous stress, I feel anxious. Can someone tell me how to become fearless? What am I so afraid of?

Do you have any belief in a higher power,who you could ask to take this from you ?
I would say GO to the spirit but with some sense of authority and love. Its time for you to move on and then they go.

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I've actually seen unexplainable things happening before my eyes.

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What have you seen and are you ever using any smoking products when you see them ? Sorry,can't help it.:)
I have seen ghosts so I know they exist.
What is happening exactly?

Great, someone took me seriosly.
Unfortunately, I'm hard core unbeliever. To the best, agnostic, maybe. I definitely don't believe in god or anything close to any religion.

I've tried talking to the "sprit", I've said all you've suggested, I've talked to a lot of people to help me with that, but the "ghost" is still there.

No problem, almost everyone asked me have I've been using drugs, lol. Well, NO! I've seen shadows, some unclear and some in the shape of a human. I have been having problems with light switch in my house. I feel sudden coldness on my body. I hear whispers, someone is saying my name, but the rest is not clear. They're a lot of weird noises during the night. I've felt someone touched me when no one was there. The curtains move when there is no wind. I'm NOT making this up and I'm not a nut case.

My boyfriend is my withness, he also heard things, and he was with me when something bumped in our bed. It was a loud and powerful kick under our bed, and the whole bed moved from it in the middle of the night. This was a huge trauma for me. I screamed like crazy that night.

I've been told I don't have to be afraid, but this is ruining my life, I can't function normaly due to my fear.

I am giving you a basic link to cleansing your home of spirits.
From there you will find many other ways .
How to Spiritually Cleanse Your Home of Psychic Disturbances - wikiHow

Even if you don't have a religious affiliation,you still love people ,right?
So you say to this lost soul please move on,your scaring me a little bit and be strong in saying "this is my life"!

I have asked spirits to leave and they did and I think they wanted to be told ,why I was chosen I have no clue. :)

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've tried talking to the "sprit", I've said all you've suggested, I've talked to a lot of people to help me with that, but the "ghost" is still there.

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No! There is no talking besides GO! That's it! You don't engage a spirit by giving it attention and talking to it!

If you don't pray ,you should start now or get smart about how you are handling this.
Do not talk to a entity who needs to move on.

Keep us informed,look on line and find ways to make this end good for both of you !

Thanks artlady. I've alredy red almost entire internet. But I will do more. We tried a lot of things, they didn't work. I even went to the church even if I don't believe just to get rid of this. It didn't help. I can't force myself to believe if I don't. They told us not to do any magic (by that they even mean this under your link).

But you got me thinking... by talking I didn't mean screaming to the ghost "go away, leave me alone!!". I was being calm and just explained him to go, how this is my house. I've told him I'm scared and don't like him to make noises etc. I probably made a mistake by saying him he can stay till he finds his way but he has to be quite and not to scare me at any way (my friend who had experiences with ghosts suggested me that). I told that also because I was afraid if I get mad and tell him to leave immediately, he could get angry and do something to me. (fear talking). I also felt emphaty, like what if I was that ghost, I wouldn't like people pushing me away if I mean no harm.
My boyfriend on the other hand, got mad after something bumped into our bed, and said to him very loudly to leave us alone. But nothing.

Basically I'm responsible for the fear I feel. The ghost won't go away, at least not now. So that's why I give up and want to learn how to live with it without fear.

Interesting question, why is this happening, am I really chosen? Can you reject being chosen? I don't want this.

Your ghost seems the stubborn kind but the times I've had a ghost around I've found that asking them to go into the light works.

The ghost is there for a reason. Somehow there is an attachment to a place, or time, or people that may have lived in the house before you. For some reason, they choose to stay. Some don't realize they are dead. Some won't let go of their worldly place, others are looking for something- a mate, child. The ghost may be someone who is warning you of danger, or may be a relative.

You might try enlisting the help of a psychic to get through to the ghost. You may never fully know why he/she is there, but a psychic will be able to communicate, and assist the ghost in moving on.

Try not to be afraid. I think that if harm were meant to happen to you, it would have happened by now. Ghosts are really confused souls, lost to both worlds I think, the living, and the afterlife. They want you to know they are there for a reason, probably to reconcile their past in some way, so that they can move on.

If it persists, even after psychic intervention, I would consider moving.

Could you go into a bit more detail about what's actually happening please?

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Could you go into a bit more detail about what's actually happening please?

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I've already had in the third post here.

But I'll give you an insight in just my last night. I sleep with lights turned on because I'm scared now to be here in the dark. (I'm not scared of dark in general). It always starts after midnight. I tried to sleep but there were weird noises in my room. Like someone was knocking on the furniture the whole night. I know this happens because the change in temperature. But I know how to tell that from something just being there in my room. In all the other rooms there were no noises. I heard a knock on my window, then on the door, on the closet, computer, bed... I started freaking out when I heard 3 knocks on the table near me. It was so obvious. I then heard it on the floor too. It was about 2am and I haven't fell asleep till 7am. This lasted during the whole night. I turned the TV on not to hear it so loudly. I even try to go to sleep with it turned on.
I also felt (this happens a lot) like someone was touching bed near me. I felt a few vibrations, like someone pressed the bed and then left.

I have nowhere to go. I can't ask friends here to sleep over at their place. My best and closest friends are in the other town. My family lives in the other city too. My boyfriend is out of town for a few days. Besides, the situation between us is not good right now and I'll probably be single soon, it's just a matter of time. He offered me to go and sleep at his family's house, but due to the circumsatnces between us, I don't want to, I have some dignity. Most other people whom I reach out laugh at me and don't take me serious.

It's not like I'm rejecting all your solutions, but we really tired it all many times without results. I wish I could move. But my financial and living sitation is complicated.

The only thing left as I see it is to stop being afraid. But I can't. I've talked to the therapist and she only helped me in short term. I'm dying alone in fear when the night falls. I even spent nights out in the bars which got me so exhausted and tired, and in the end I had to come home and get some sleep. I've started losing weight because of this, which worries me because I'm already thin.
Is this a nightmare or what?

Its sounds very tough and I'm sorry your relationship's not going well. Its sounds and noise rather than visual?
Can I ask how old the building is ? And do you know anything about the previous occupants?

Noises, touches, hits... visual only shadows. It is really creepy to see a shadow passing by. I can't describe how scary it is for me, I can't even move. I stay completely stiff and numb.

The building is about 30-40 years old. It was my grandparents house. Both of the psychics think the ghost is a family member. I tried to see it as a call for someone in my family who needs help and I make extra efforts to help them. It's hard to take care of everyone, but I really try. Maybe the ghost wants me to try harder but I'm physically falling apart from everything. I can't take so much pressure anymore when no one appreciates my effort. They just complain and criticise me. But they're my family and I'll do anything for them even though we're not close.

I think you need to start taking care of you now and let others look after themselves.
You seem run down and with this added stress you're going around in circles-ok-it probably is a family member but I don't think they're out to hurt you. They're just stuck. Could you try an alternative healing method for yourself,such as reiki?
This might help you get some balance back in your life.

I actually have a friend who's teaching reiki for 20 years. I've already worked with her and I will do more. Thanks for helping everybody. I hope everything will work out for me and the "ghost" in the end.

One thing you can try are what is called 'white lights of protection'. What you do is imagine a protective shield. You start at the top of your head, and draw a line from the top of your head, down the front, and up the back to where you started. Then you draw a line from the top of your head, down one side, under your feet and back up the other side, then finally draw a cirle around the middle.

Then say, 'protect me from all negativity and harm'. Then you are protected from anything penetrating that bubble.

I do the white lights of protection when I need them, not just at bed time.

You may also wish to try commincating yourself. Set a small recorder in a very quiet place near by, but not right next to you, so you don't pick up sounds of your own breathing, rustling covers etc.

Just leave it on 'record', and see if you pick anything up. Maybe all they need is to be heard, and that will be the end of it.

If the Psychics are coming during the daytime, see if you can't convince one to come at the time these things usually happen if you haven't already. It may take more than one visit.

They should be able to provide you with some protection through communicating with the spirit. What have they told you- did they make any contact?

Curious to know if a lot of what is happening is happening more due to the impending breakup with your boyfriend. And when did it start, and do you think that what's happening is more obvious now than it was, say six months ago?

I really don't think that you have anything to worry about. It is most likely not mean, or out to get you, but trying to communicate for some reason.

Good luck take care and let us know how you get on.