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  • Dec 16, 2009, 07:57 PM
    BigEric
    What do you think My ex wants?
    We were each others first love and we lost our virginity to each other. At the end end of the relationship I couldn't get over an issue with another dude and she dumped me. Is till love her a lot. I regret being immature.

    I went no contact for 3 months after she dumped me then she texted me a shirt at her house was mine.. I told her it wasn't. (it obviously wasnt)It turned into her asking how I've been and knows stuff about me from Facebook status. Asking me how I am. How Ive lost weight and got a new car.

    I didn't talk two her for 2 weeks after that. 2 weeks later she was on Facebook and she chats me and talks to me talking about how she's doing good and asking me how I am again. We seem to get along. She ends the chat with "feel free to text me" at the end of the conversation.

    What do you think she wants.. do get back together or be friends or what? I obviously never go out of my way to talk to her really. Why does she do it for me? Should I text her?

    P.s. She has a new boyfriend. (didn't mention him either times talking.)
  • Dec 16, 2009, 08:03 PM
    Wondergirl

    Absolutely no contact -- no email, no chat, no IMs, no phone calling, no texting. If she contacts you, ignore her. Block her whenever you can.
  • Dec 20, 2009, 03:37 PM
    imissher15

    You can't be sure if she likes you yet. She obviously at least wants to be friends. If you still like her you should text her and stuff and eventually you will find out if she likes you just like any 2 people would from the start.
  • Dec 20, 2009, 04:07 PM
    talaniman
    She has a boyfriend, and wants you in the friend zone, and that's it. Then she doesn't have to feel bad about dumping you, so don't get any ideas she wants to resume any romance with you. Keep doing your own thing, and leave hers alone.
  • Dec 20, 2009, 05:23 PM
    FadedMaster

    I'll jump on the bandwagon. Leave her alone. Keep distance between the two of you and let plenty of time pass before ever even considering anything with her again. It's way too soon to be friends. She has a boyfriend, so anything more needs to be out of the question. Whether she does or not, respect that she is with someone else.

    If she continues to throw herself into your life and you cannot avoid it, let her know that you two need time before ever considering friendship... and make sure she understands that you don't mean that the two of you will ever be friends.
  • Jan 4, 2010, 12:12 PM
    blondndisguise5

    I have the same relationship issue my ex, 1st everything and he has dumped me SO many times and caused me SO much pain. Do not go back to her and do not talk to her there is no point if you two become friends you will be her guy friend who she uses as an emotional crutch and that will be hard on you. Sorry but from experience continue to go nc. You don't need her.
  • Jan 5, 2010, 09:46 AM
    AdviceAngelx

    It sounds like she wants to be your friend.
    It is your decision if you want to accept being her friend or not.
    You may contact her if you want but what she did to you must have hurt a lot.
    She is with someone else so you have to respect that but you two can become friends. :)
    AdviceAngelx
    PS. Please note that this is just advice, your actions don't have to have anything to do with it.
  • Jan 5, 2010, 09:56 AM
    HistorianChick

    Your "P.S." says it all. She has a boyfriend. She is not available.

    If you obey one relationship rule, you'll forever be "good" for every relationship you consider in the future: If a woman/man is in a relationship/engaged/dating/or otherwise "taken," she/he is not available. Period.

    Leave her alone. Don't let her try and make you a side-piece in her relationship with her boyfriend.
  • Jan 5, 2010, 01:04 PM
    lolwow

    Play hard to get, don't be immiture about it. Just do it.
  • Jan 5, 2010, 02:29 PM
    Cinderblocks

    I totally agree with the emotional crutch. You sound like the nice guy and we have all been there at some point. Your best bet is to keep your distance. Keep doing what you're doing.

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