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  • Dec 15, 2009, 04:05 PM
    Sweetgirl10
    Did I come off as helpful?
    Well me and my best friend of like 4 years now were sitting down talking the other day. She is 17 and dating an older guy just like me but I am legal. But the thing is she told me something that he said but I didn't know what to tell her. She told him how she felt and about some things that she found out about him that he himself tell her and his reply was that he wish that she would have waited and let him tell her on his own time and he wanted to wait until she turned 18 and until they both were serious before he let her meet everybody else in the family and that she knew that he loved her and that he wasn't going anywhere and that she hurt his feelings with the way she came off with her words. I, myself am not too good with advice but I told her that if he felt that way then he could have said that from the beginning before the first time they had intercourse if he felt that way and I told her to just keep her guard up and not to fall too deep just lay low until her birthday rolls around and if he reniged on his word then just to drop him. From a male point of view how do you see? From a female point of view would you have told your best friend the same?
  • Dec 15, 2009, 04:31 PM
    MsMewiththat

    Way too little information to give a response. It depends on what she found out and what the age difference is between the two. Please provide more detail.
  • Dec 15, 2009, 04:34 PM
    Sweetgirl10

    Well she found out that he had more than one kid and that he lied about his age. The age difference is 9 years.
  • Dec 15, 2009, 04:41 PM
    J_9
    So, she's 17 and he is 26. He has more than one child already, right?

    She needs to drop him like a hot potato unless she wants to be another one of his baby momma.

    He's keeping it secret because he knows it's sick for him to be with a 17 year old and he doesn't want his family to find out.

    I bet that was what he told his other baby's mommas.
  • Dec 15, 2009, 05:06 PM
    Sweetgirl10

    Wow I really didn't see it that way but thamk god for more experienced people like you. I can tell her this now to open her eyes.
  • Dec 15, 2009, 05:18 PM
    Gemini54
    So he wanted to wait until she turned 18 to tell her that he has children and she hurt his feelings because she asked him about it?

    Your friend is being used by this guy - he's already keeping things from her and making excuses about why he's doing it.

    He's bull-$hitting her, plain and simple. Yep, she fell for it but she doesn't have to keep doing it. Tell your friend she's better off seeing guys her own age.
  • Dec 15, 2009, 06:31 PM
    chuff

    Agree with everybody else, but it's clear she doesn't trust him already if she has to find out on her own his age and number of children from other sources.
  • Dec 15, 2009, 07:09 PM
    Sweetgirl10

    I do agree!! Thank you so much everyone for taking out time to help me and my friend. She also states "Im hurt but i should have known better". Thanks to you all she can move on now. Besides there are plenty more fish in the sea for her and way better than him!!

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