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I have been going out with this guy now for over 2 years and we have been engaged now for just over a year, but over the last year I have felt so clingy to him as if I'm almost obsessed with him and it really is doing my head in! And its just getting worse and still is at the moment, I feel very insecure and feel very needy of him as if I have to be with him all the time, and if I don't I just get very unhappy. I also think that I get jelous whenever he goes out to see his mates instead of wanting to see me, and also very selfish like I want him to myself all the time. But I hate feeling this way and just wish that I wouldn't analyise things too much because I often think he's not bothered about seeing me sometimes when he goes to see his mates instead of wanting to see me,I keep thinking very negatively. I just wish I could get on with my life at the same time by wanting to spend time with my friends and family and also doing other activities and being as happy as when I am with him. I have spoke to him about this and he says I should just try to change the way I think, but I have tried and I still just keep thinking these horrible negative thoughts. Also I tend to call him and text him a lot and if he doesn't text back I start thinking he's not bothered! Its so hard to understand, does anyone know what I'm going through or can anyone help me? Because I feel as though I am going mad!