So I have been having sex for a while now I'm 21 and the only time I ever ad an orgasm was when I gave it to myself? I have never had an orgasm while having sex or even receiving oral sex... sum1 help me!!

While having sex do you ever get close to the feeling you get while you are doing yourself?

Hello Ganjagirl:

Well, after you've burned one, you've got to grab his hand and put it where you want it. Then manapulate his fingers to show him what you like. SHOW him gently - he wants to learn your buttons too.

Then after you've till you can't any more, burn another one.

excon

Hi - I never had an orgasm with a guy until I was 28! And believe me - not like I'd gone short on playmates before that! For me it was about trust, I had to fully trust and therefore relax with the man. I think us women sometimes get a bit self conscious about ourselves in front of men, and when its like that and especially if your trying hard for an orgasm - it ain't going to happen!

Hope it helps. It will happen you know! Promise xx

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Originally Posted by letmetellu

While having sex do you ever get close to the feeling you get while you are doing yourself?

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Not at all... its so weird! And one of my friends was talking generally about orgasims, obviously not knowing about my issue and he was like " you know some people are jus addicted to porn and can't feel good while having sex with a real live person" clearly that is not the case with me but still... I have run out of reasons. I don't know hit me back! I had sex yesterday.. and the same still flies.

Do you give them to yourself or use mechanical help? If you are using toys you may actually be working against yourself because the toys will cause nerve numbing.

Trust with a partner is a big thing. Patience is another. "A watched pot never boils" after all. If you're too concerned with having one, it'll never happen.

Experiment with your partner. Try different positions. Try elevating your lower back with a pillow (or two). Teach him what you do and let him keep working (with you coaching) until you get there. Don't get frustrated with him or with yourself.

Lastly, abstain from "helping yourself" for as long as you can. It's much easier to pop an over-inflated balloon.

Well I think you should buy a vibrator and see the reaction...
Well we are all human you should give yourself some rest just don't do it for a while
Then buy a porn movie and try to watch it and see how you feel
After all that if you still do not want sex just go to a doctor
Don't forget here people just share their feeling you never know who is true who is wrong

Foreplay and talk, tell your partner what is good and what is not good,
Guide them and show them, too many men think foreplay is taking more than 2 minutes to get their pants off.