I have to say I am the girl in the relationship with a man that says he's eager to be intimate but I have a feeling there's more to it. He initiated the intimacy... but I don't feel the genuity in the oral sex or any of it. It's like he's going through the motions. I'm 27... he's 37 and we have an awesome connection except during sex... everything feels rushed. He loses his erection so often and it is playing hard on my desire to be sexual with him. He says it's him... but he gives no explanation. I've been through the relationship that was sex-less for quite some time before him. I tried to move past it... my eyes started wandering so I LEFT HIM. I don't want to go down that road again because it took me two years to rebuild myself esteem. I fear going through that again... what can I do?

Please do not piggyback your question onto someone else's question. The thread you answered on was nearly three years old!

Asking your own question will get you more specific answers related to your situation, so I have moved your post to it's own question.